The Disconnect That Follows Distraction

Every distraction, big or small, creates a gap. That gap is the second D: Disconnect. It's the space and lack of connection that happens after you've been pulled apart.

What does this look like in real life?

A Short Disconnect: You both have a busy workday. At the end of the day, you feel a little out of sync, and the conversation is more about logistics ("what's for dinner?") than connection.
A Medium Disconnect: One of you goes on a multi-day business trip. When you reunite, it takes intentional effort to catch up, move past the "how was your trip?" basics, and get back into your shared rhythm.
A Long Disconnect: After months of focusing on a family crisis or a demanding project, you realize you're living parallel lives. The disconnect feels less like a gap and more like a canyon, leaving you feeling like roommates.

The goal isn't to prevent disconnects—they're a normal part of life. The goal is to shrink the time it takes to reconnect.

Application:

Think about the last 24 hours. What's one small "gap" that was created by a distraction?

What's one simple action you can take to close it?

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