1 Day to Thanksgiving: Watch for the Check Engine Light

We talk a lot about the Origins Protocol—how our childhood shapes our reactions. There is no greater time for "Origin" stuff to pop up than when you are back around the people you grew up with!

Holidays can be amazing, but they can also be triggering. You might feel like a teenager again around your parents, or feel old insecurities flaring up.

Watch for your internal "Check Engine Light."

Is your chest tight?
Are you snapping at your kids/spouse?
Do you feel the urge to shut down or run away?

These are signals that you are flooded. Do not try to resolve conflict when you are flooded.

If the light comes on, take a "Time Out." Go to the bathroom, step outside for fresh air, or offer to run a quick errand. Regulate your nervous system before you engage. A 10-minute break can save the whole day.

Application Question: What is your "go-to" move to calm down when you feel stress rising? (Deep breaths? A walk? Prayer?)

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