Hey guys, Im really looking forward to our call tomorrow. I appreciate your guys wisdom so much. I love being challenged in my thinking - it was so great unpacking the fear of the Lord last week. I've been pondering the comment "I wouldn't want my kids to fear me, I'd want them to love and respect me. Looking forward to continuing in proverbs 1 tomorrow. Man there is some more gems for fathering in there and some real challenges arounnd complacency.

Hey guys, I'm building the next free resource for the community and I want your thoughts on it. I've been reading a book called the 7 habits of highly effective families and thought it would be cool to share some of the key ideas I've learnt so far. Which of these would actually help you most right now? Vote below, and the winner gets built first. 1. The Family Mirror Why: You didn't choose your family culture, it was handed to you. Most dads are running the same patterns their own father ran without realizing it, and their kids are absorbing it right now. What it involves: A guided audit that helps you identify your current family culture and one specific reframe to shift from criticism-based reactions to strengths-based responses. Outcome: By the end of the week, you'll have named one inherited pattern, made one intentional deposit into your family's emotional bank account, and felt the atmosphere at home shift. 2. The Pause Button Why: You lose it with your kids, feel like a hypocrite afterward, and wonder why you keep repeating the same moment you swore you'd handle differently this time. What it involves: A 3-step reset practice (Stop. Breathe. Choose.) with a real-time trigger cue you can use in the next hard moment, not in theory, in the actual moment. Outcome: Within 5 days, you'll have caught yourself before reacting at least once. Your kid will have seen a different version of their dad. 3.The family vision builder Why: You're showing up every day but you're not sure what you're building toward. No shared direction, no family identity, just surviving the week and hoping it adds up to something. What it involves: A family questioning exercise that you can do around the dinner table that walks you toward one clear sentence your whole family can actually remember, not a corporate mission statement, a real anchor. Outcome: By the end of the week, your family will have one sentence that defines who you're becoming together.

Have you ever wanted to step out to try something new, but everytime you have the idea you just can't seem to take the first step. Maybe it's teaching your kids about money, deciding when to have the talk about the birds and the bees for the first time, changing a routine in your family to try make your day more effient, or maybe something bigger like starting a business or a side hustle. Whatever your idea, the hardest part is usually starting. Whats an idea that you have that you would like to act on but keep stalling before you begin? Share below, I'd love to hear.

Hey guys. I've appreciated our calls so much these last few weeks. It's been so helpful figuring out where to go from here and what everyone's looking for. So far we've been unpacking: - Romans 12:2 teaches us to question and challenge the behaviours and beliefs that drive the way we parent. - Proverbs 22:6 shows us that we need to consider what the "right path" is for our kids, so we asked, what tools and vision do you want your kids to have when they are adults? - This included helping them to see the world as a place to pour into, not take from, and the big idea of gratitude and thankfulness. - Role modelling is fundamental to training our kids. - So what vision do you have for yourself, and how are you going to live it? From here we're going to start going through Proverbs together. The goal is to use it as a road map, questioning, challenging, and unpacking how we can grow in wisdom so that we can be successful in every area of our lives as fathers. See you on the next call.

Hey guys, just following up on the question I finished our call with. This week Im going to be doing some interviews with some guest speakers. One is Hutch, the owner of Backdoor surf stores, a Christian surfer dad and business owner. I havent sent him any questions yet, but if you have any you'd like me to include send them to me by the end of the weekend. One is Bruce Benge, and Im looking to ask him these questions: First tell us a bit about yourself Q1. "You've spent years shepherding other people's families. Looking back, what were some of the challenges of having your own family throughout it?" Q2. "Was there a moment where one of your kids said or did something that stopped you in your tracks as a father — and what did you do about it?" Q3. "What does Scripture say about fatherhood that you think most Christian dads are actually ignoring?" Q4. "You had a front-row seat to hundreds of families. What's the pattern you kept seeing in the dads who were losing their families?" Q5. "And on the flip side — what were the patterns you saw in the families that were thriving, across all stages from young kids to adult children?" Q6. "If you could go back and tell 35-year-old you one thing about being a father — what is it?"