What I learned, and can now see as a benefit, is that I have to turn my brain off in a way that keeps me from over-functioning. When my brain is fully on, I tend to do the most. I default to control because I know I can do it, and it also causes me to lead with my education. Turning my brain off allows me to contribute without taking over. It gives me space to observe how he leads, appreciate him for leading, and offer emotional warmth.