🛠️ TOOL 02 — RESPONSIBILITY AUDIT
Use this when you feel overwhelmed, resentful, stuck, or mentally busy. This tool separates what is yours to act on from what isn’t. ⚠️ Do not rush it. Keep it factual. 📍 Step 1: Name the situation. What is the situation currently taking up your mental space? One sentence. No interpretation. 🧱 Step 2: Split the page in two. Column A — In My Control List only what you can directly influence through your behaviour, choices, or boundaries. Examples: - what I say or don’t say - what I agree to - what action I take - what boundary I set Column B — Not In My Control List everything else. Examples: - other people’s reactions - timing - outcomes - past decisions Be strict. If it’s not actionable, it goes in Column B. 🔥 Step 3: Choose ONE responsibility. From Column A, circle one item. Ask: If I handled this one thing differently, what would change? That’s your focus. 👉 Step 4: Decide the next move. Complete this sentence: My responsibility here is to… Follow it with one concrete action you can take within the next 7 days. ⛔ Important: - Responsibility is not blame - Responsibility is not control - Responsibility is response-ability If you keep waiting for Column B to change, you stay stuck. ✅ AFTER YOU ACT Once you’ve taken the action: - Log it in Integration Logs - Use the required format Evidence builds trust in yourself. 🔍 Why this tool exists: Overwhelm usually comes from carrying things that aren’t yours. This tool puts weight back where it belongs.