I am here to offer my experience, opinions, and hypotheses on what they are and what you can do about them. Ask away. John

Actors step on stage with their bodies shaking, heart racing, and mind screaming they’re about to fail hard. They still go out and perform. They don’t call it “being an anxious person.” They call it discomfort — a temporary bodily experience while they get on with what matters to them. The reward on the other side (doing the work they love, the growth, the aliveness) is worth the feeling. Most people labelled “anxious” do the opposite: they treat the exact same sensations as proof of who they are and let it stop them completely. The sensations aren’t the real issue. The identity you attach to them is. What discomfort are you still letting run your life? Clip from Video 53 - Becoming the lead character in your Game of Life!

Being selfish doesn't really work for me, but learning how to become Selflessly Selfish really did! I had always thought selfishness was bad, but surely putting yourself first is one of the definitions of self-esteem (to a certain extent). This is a clip from video 36 - where I ask, "Is it sensible to be too nice?"

There is a big difference between conditional and unconditional love. And I think it begins with self-love. This is a clip from video 19.

This is just my hypothesis; however, it is based on 20 years as an OCD therapist and on being married to an intensely (and lovely) ADHD woman. I have seen a strong correlation between people with ADHD/ADD (and bipolar) and Pure OCD - especially if a creative, extroverted person had those natural attributes suppressed or repressed during childhood by parents, school, bullying, or some other traumatic event. In this video, I try to outline the patterns I have witnessed. It is not scientific, but it is what I have seen time and time again, and so many people have told me that this knowledge has changed their lives. Much love, John https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ip-fXAoqkik&t=124s