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Hey y’all 💜 Can you believe we’re already at the end of this 12-week journey together? I’m so proud of every single parent who showed up — even when it was hard, even when the kids were wild, even when life felt like too much. You made it here, and that means something. Weeks 11 &12 are combined to help our families relax for the holidays? 💜 Over these past weeks, we’ve learned to nurture our children and ourselves — through awareness, empathy, consistency, and connection. And now, as we close out the year and head into the holidays, it’s time to slow down, reflect, and celebrate how far we’ve come. When I think about this time of year, I think about feelings — the good, the heavy, and the holy-in-between. The holidays can bring joy and laughter, but they can also stir up old memories, grief, and exhaustion. And that’s okay. Growth doesn’t mean life gets easy — it means we meet life with more compassion, more calm, and more tools than we had before. If I could go back and tell my younger self one thing, I’d say this: “You don’t have to yell to be heard. You don’t have to be perfect to be loved. Your calm presence will teach your children more than fear ever could.” I wish I had known, back when I was 19 and raising my oldest two, what I know now about emotions, the brain, and behavioral science. I didn’t understand that when kids act out, they’re communicating needs they don’t have words for yet. I didn’t know that I could model calm instead of chaos — or that I could repair after a rough day and still raise resilient, loving humans. Now, as I raise little Arianna, I get to use these new tools — and I’m still using them with my adult children, too. That’s the beautiful part of healing: it’s never too late to do it differently. This week, we’re blending everything we’ve learned: 💜 Feelings — understanding what they’re trying to tell us. 💛 Communication — speaking and listening with love. 🌿 Relationships — repairing instead of repeating. 🌸 Celebration — honoring the growth that has happened, even quietly.

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Hey y’all, Welcome to **Week 10.** This week, we’re talking about *discipline and family rules* — and for a lot of us, that topic hits deep. When I was a child, discipline looked and sounded very different than what we teach here. My grandma and mom both came from a time when parenting meant control, not connection. Words like: > “I brought you into this world, and I can take you out of it,” or > “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.” That was normal in our house. The kind of normal that mixed fear and love in the same breath. Physical punishment was part of daily life — the “pick a switch” kind of normal. Sometimes it was a stick, sometimes a belt, sometimes whatever was within reach. And the confusing part was, love still lived there too. We had laughter, kindness, and joy — right alongside fear, pain, and silence. When you grow up in that kind of home, you learn that love can hurt and that safety can disappear fast. So when you become a parent, it’s easy to swing between wanting to do better and not knowing how. That’s why this week matters so much. Because discipline isn’t about *fear* — it’s about *teaching.* It’s about showing our kids that even when life is hard, love stays steady. As parents, we’re the bridge between the past and the future. We can honor where we came from — even the broken pieces — and still choose a different legacy for our families. 💜 **This week, we’ll explore:** * The difference between discipline and punishment * How to build family rules that teach, not terrify * What consequences can look like when they’re rooted in connection * How to bring calm back into chaos You don’t have to have all the answers. Just showing up with awareness means the cycle is already shifting. Because what was once *normal* doesn’t have to stay that way. With love and deep respect for your healing, **Brandy Grace** 🌿

Hey y’all, Welcome to Week 8 of our Nurturing Families journey. 🌼 This week, we’re diving into something that can completely change how we see our children — and ourselves — as we grow together: understanding the brain. If I could go back in time and tell my 19-year-old self one thing as I was raising my now-adult children, it would be this: “Their behavior isn’t bad — their brain is still learning.” I wish I had known then what I know now about brain development and behavioral science. It would have changed so much about how I parented — how I responded to meltdowns, how I set boundaries, and even how I forgave myself when I didn’t get it right. Back then, I didn’t know that little brains literally can’t self-regulate yet — or that teens are wired for risk and independence, not because they’re defiant, but because their brains are under construction. I didn’t know that the part of the brain responsible for logic and impulse control doesn’t fully develop until our mid-twenties. And y’all, I surely didn’t know that my own brain, shaped by trauma and survival, was learning and healing right alongside my children. Now, with my youngest, Arianna, I get to use all of these new tools — tools I wish I’d had 20 years ago. I find myself breathing differently, listening differently, and seeing her through a softer, more curious lens. And here’s the beautiful part — I still use these same tools with my adult children. It’s never too late to parent differently, to reconnect, or to model growth. This week is about giving you that same gift — the understanding that: - Behavior is communication. - The brain grows through relationships, not reactions. - And patience is a science-backed form of love. When we understand what’s happening inside our children’s minds, we stop taking everything so personally and start seeing every meltdown, mood swing, and mistake as an opportunity to teach, connect, and grow together. So whether your child is a toddler learning “no,” a tween testing limits, or a teen craving independence — remember, they’re not giving you a hard time; they’re having a hard time.