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First Impression

Good morning gentlemen,

I have a question for you this morning, are you a people person? Now for me I like people, but I am not a very outgoing type person that will immediately try to make friends or just walk up and introduce myself randomly. So if you are this type person you are not alone. The sad part is more and more people are being this way because of the world we live in. The caution flags seem to stay raised. Yes we need to always be cautious, but not to where it prevents us from getting to know certain people. For me, I had people say that I look mean or unapproachable. I don’t think that I am or come across as this. But if I hear that from several people then I need to take a look at this and I have. So why is this important? Because when you are making connections this is important, you do not have to be the life of the party but you want people to feel you are approachable. This is very important if you are wanting to make connections beside, that first impression is what people remember. My brother and gentleman Nicholas Logan in this community spoke the other day and I have spoken about getting to know certain people that you frequent their establishments. This could be your dry cleaner, your tailor, the bartender, waitress or waiter, you want to get to know people at places that you frequent a lot because these are the ones that serve you and will also look out for you.

For example, there are a few places that I and my wife frequent and also places that I take my clients to, so when I walk into a particular restaurant I am greeted by the person at the door by my name, They also know who my favorite waiter or waitress is so if they ar working they will seat me where they are working. Why? Because that person at the door recognizes me, and that waiter or waitress made sure that they know when me or my wife walks in they get assigned to us because we give them respect and we also tip them well for their service. The bartender, he knows my name and what my favorite drink is and how I like it. This not only impresses my clients, but they see that these people know me and respect me and I respect them as well.

I also when I meet a person and they give me their contact information I will put it my phone and a brief description of who they are, where we met, and either where they work at or the type of work they do, maybe the reason we made contact. Now, as many of you know I have been getting away from the digital age by de-digitizing myself, but for this I use my cellphone contacts to store the information. I currently have over 8,563 contact in my cellphone. Crazy right? Not really, see I never delete a contact in my phone, if it was important for me to put it in there then there was a reason. One thing that I have learned over the years, that to you never know when you might need that person you met a while ago. And I have found this to be so true and valuable over the years. When I needed some information or assistance on something I can think of who might know, now I might not remember their exact name or number but if can search my contacts and it will pop up and then I can read the notes and remember how and when we met so when I make contact I can recall to that person and in most cases hey will remember as well.

Bonus tip, for me this is easy being left handed, when you are walking especially walking into a place try to keep your right hand free so when you make contact or are confronted with a person your right hand is free to extend and give a frim hand shake. This is very important when walking to an establishment or a meeting when you know you are going to be met or engaged in meeting and greeting people. Nothing looks more uncomfortable or unprepared when you have to stop and switch things in your hands in order to make contact, this prevents those awkward seconds of you fiddling around and adjusting your hands.

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