This is not a support group. This is not vent-only space. This is not “just journal about your feelings.” This is a pattern-analysis environment. Most people get stuck because they’re trying to heal without first understanding what actually happened to them. In here, we do things differently. What This Space Is This is a lab for: - Breaking confusion into observable patterns - Turning emotional chaos into clear timelines - Learning how manipulation, gaslighting, DARVO, and power dynamics actually work - Rebuilding self-trust through documentation, not reassurance If something felt “off,” we assume it was — and we investigate it. What This Space Is NOT - We don’t minimize. - We don’t rush forgiveness. - We don’t tell you to “just let it go.” - We don’t diagnose people — we analyze behavior patterns. How to Use The Lab You’ll see categories like: - Pattern Breakdowns - Message Rewrites - Receipts & Timelines - Clarity Exercises - Boundary Experiments You can read quietly. You can participate lightly. You can post anonymously-style if you need distance. There is no “right pace” here. One Important Rule ❶ You do not need to prove your experience was “bad enough” to be here. ❷ Confusion is data. ❸ Discomfort is data. ❹ Repeating cycles are data. Start Here If you want to introduce yourself, answer one of these in the comments — short is fine: - What situation brought you here? (work, family, relationship, something else) - What word best describes how things felt at the end? - What are you hoping to understand better — not fix, just understand? You’re not behind. You’re not broken. You’re early in the analysis. Welcome to The Lab. Patterns don’t lie. People do. — Kim Founder, Red Flag Archive™

This space runs on clarity, not chaos. To keep Red Flag Archive: The Lab useful, grounded, and safe for analysis, there are a few shared agreements. These aren’t “rules” — they’re how we protect the signal. 1. We focus on behavior, not character assassination You don’t need to label someone a narcissist, sociopath, or anything else to understand what happened. What matters here is: - What was said - What was done - What pattern repeated - How it affected you Behavior leaves evidence. That’s what we analyze. 2. No minimizing, no rushing, no “just move on” energy Everyone arrives here at a different point in their process. We don’t: - Push forgiveness - Demand closure - Pressure healing timelines - Tell people they’re “dwelling” Clarity comes first. Everything else follows. 3. Advice is optional — insight is welcome If you’re responding to someone: - Ask clarifying questions - Reflect patterns you notice - Share observations, not commands “Here’s what I’m seeing” is always better than “You should…” 4. Privacy is non-negotiable What’s shared here stays here. No screenshots. Np sharing stories elsewhere. No identifying details about people who didn’t consent to being discussed. This is a documentation space, not content farming. 5. You don’t owe anyone your story You can: - Lurk - Read - Participate selectively - Take breaks Silence is not disengagement. It’s data gathering. 6. Respect the container Posts are organized intentionally. Using the right category helps: - Patterns surface - Rewrites stay focused - Timelines make sense Structure is what makes this space different from everywhere else.