How This Space Works (Read Once, Refer Back Anytime)
This space runs on clarity, not chaos.
To keep Red Flag Archive: The Lab useful, grounded, and safe for analysis, there are a few shared agreements. These aren’t “rules” — they’re how we protect the signal.
1. We focus on behavior, not character assassination
You don’t need to label someone a narcissist, sociopath, or anything else to understand what happened.
What matters here is:
- What was said
- What was done
- What pattern repeated
- How it affected you
Behavior leaves evidence. That’s what we analyze.
2. No minimizing, no rushing, no “just move on” energy
Everyone arrives here at a different point in their process.
We don’t:
- Push forgiveness
- Demand closure
- Pressure healing timelines
- Tell people they’re “dwelling”
Clarity comes first. Everything else follows.
3. Advice is optional — insight is welcome
If you’re responding to someone:
- Ask clarifying questions
- Reflect patterns you notice
- Share observations, not commands
“Here’s what I’m seeing” is always better than “You should…”
4. Privacy is non-negotiable
What’s shared here stays here.
No screenshots. Np sharing stories elsewhere. No identifying details about people who didn’t consent to being discussed.
This is a documentation space, not content farming.
5. You don’t owe anyone your story
You can:
- Lurk
- Read
- Participate selectively
- Take breaks
Silence is not disengagement. It’s data gathering.
6. Respect the container
Posts are organized intentionally.
Using the right category helps:
- Patterns surface
- Rewrites stay focused
- Timelines make sense
Structure is what makes this space different from everywhere else.
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How This Space Works (Read Once, Refer Back Anytime)
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