A Truth We Need to Remember · Parenting Adult Children Today

A Truth We Need to Remember

It is very easy for us to lose sight on what really matters. One of the challenges for us is the familiarity we have with each other. It is easy to take things for granted - habits, traditions, beliefs, etc. - because we have history. You often see that when a child marries or dates someone who sees things through a totally different lens. It is only then that we realize that "our normal" may not be everyone else's normal.

The focus we need to prioritize is the relationship and not the issues that so often divide us. In a world of differences, it is easy for people to perceive them as a threat instead of an opportunity. We may not understand how our children shifted or switched in their thinking or beliefs and I know that is challenging on many levels. However, the question is this: Can you love your children whether you understand them or not? I can tell you that your kids know the depth of your love and acceptance so it is important for you to be honest with yourself first before you try to convince them that above all they matter most.

We don't have to agree with their thinking to love them. What we do need to recognize is the importance of being laser focused that we love them purely because they are worthy of it. When they were little they would walk in the room and we would smile simply because they existed. Is that how you love your adult children today? Think about it.

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