Wanted to highlight Daniels response here as it's so helpful.
"But one way to shift perspective could be becoming someone who genuinely wants to learn. Then studying becomes more effortless - less pressure, more curiosity.
Same with pickup. Instead of being the guy who “gets girls” - which creates pressure because it’s a goal with a success/fail condition - maybe it becomes “I just like talking to strangers.” That way, the act of approaching is the win. The rest is just a bonus."
THIS :)