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24d โข Mindset & Momentum
WHEN BEING KIND IN BUSINESS COSTS YOU EVERYTHING AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT..
๐ง๐๐๐ฆ ๐ข๐ก๐'๐ฆ ๐๐ข๐ฅ ๐ง๐๐ ๐ฃ๐๐ฆ๐ฆ ๐ง๐๐๐๐ฅ๐ฆ. ๐จ ๐๐ก๐ข๐ช ๐ช๐๐ข ๐จ ๐๐ฅ๐โฆ
I am kind. I am PROUD AF to be kind. it is one of the things I like most about myself and I will never eva apologise for it duhโฆ
but I need to talk about something that donโt get said an awful lot in businessโฆ
because there are peeps out there who see kindness and thinkโฆ easy target. (Well they dont quite think those words maybe, but u get the gist)
and I've had enough of staying quiet about itโฆ.LFG
๐ถ๐ ๐น๐ผ๐ผ๐ธ๐ ๐น๐ถ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐โฆ
- u extend a payment plan because someone's going through something and ur beautiful damn luvly July heart says help themโฆ and then one day they justโฆ stop. no message. no explanation. just gone. and ur sat there holding the bill for ur own generosity grrrr
- it looks like a 60 minute call that becomes 2 hours 17 mins because u big time care and u don't wanna to cut them offโฆ and they start expecting 2 hours every time without ever acknowledging what ur giving.
- it looks like replying at all hours because ur passionate overload and u care about their result duhโฆ and suddenly ur available 24/7 whether u agreed to that or not.
- it looks like doing extra work outside the scope because u WANT them to succeed obvsโฆ and watching that extra effort get taken for granted so quietly u almost don't notice until ur burning out.
- it looks like saying "pay me when u can" because u trust someoneโฆ and learning that trust meant absolutely nothing to themโฆ
- it looks like going above and beyond. again. and again. and again. and one day realising they don't even fricken notice anymore because ur generosity has become their standardโฆ
- it looks like overriding ur gut because u wanted to see the best in someoneโฆ ignoring the red flags because u totes believed in their potentialโฆ staying way past the point u should have left because ur not a quitter and u don't give up on people.
- it looks like vouching for someone to ur network and watching them let u down.
- it looks like being someone's coach AND their therapist AND their cheerleader AND their business strategistโฆ losing sleep over their resultsโฆ carrying their anxiety as if it were ur ownโฆ caring about their outcome more than they doโฆ. (Ooffff)
and then they ghost. just like that. as if none of it happened. as if u were nothing.
๐ก ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ'๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ๐ ๐บ๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐บ๐ผ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ด๐ฟ๐โฆ
it's not even just about what they did to me/you/us
it's about what they did to the people who come after them.
because every time someone takes the piss out of ur kindnessโฆ ur boundaries get a little firmer. ur contracts get a little tighter. ur slower to trust. ur quicker to say no. ur more guarded with the very thing that makes u brilliant at what u do.
and the people who come nextโฆ the ones who would NEVER do thisโฆ the ones who show up and respect u and value ur time and pay on time and so appreciate everything u give emโฆ
they get a slightly more protected version of u.
and THAT is what's not fair.
not just what they did. but who they made u have to become to protect urself from people like them.
so yeah. I'm still kind. I will always be kind. that is never changing.
but kind doesn't mean boundaryless anymore. kind doesn't mean I'll keep giving when nothing is coming back. kind doesn't mean I'll override my gut because I want to see the best in someone. kind doesn't mean u can take the piss.
not now. not ever again. ๐
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because the people who take advantage of genuine kindness and generosity?
that says EVERYTHING about them.
and absolutely nothing about uโฆ โค๏ธ
to every kind generous soul epic human reading this who has been thereโฆ
stay kind. but get smart. protect ur energy like a mofo like it's the most valuable thing u own. because it is.
ur kindness is not a weakness.
it's ur superpower.
just make sure ur giving it to people who actually deserve it. ๐ฅ
and if ur in THE BACKROOMโฆ this is exactly the kind of real stuff we talk about in there. every single week. because ur not alone in this. not even slightlyโฆ ๐ช
๐ฑ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ฝ ๐ฎ โค๏ธ ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ ๐ป๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ผ ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฟ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐. ๐ ๐ต๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐ฎ ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ฎ ๐น๐ผ๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐. ๐
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