Don't really know if this is suitable place to be asking this but didn't know where else to ask.
When the anger about little things I do get directed towards me, I feel really hurt and become silent (a really bad emotional response I've developed from young when people direct anger towards me because I grew up thinking silence meant safety) which makes it really hard for me to be present with my partner in those moments and in moments when she's going through a really tough time, it can lead her to think I don't care about her.
Just wondering if anyone had any advice for me on how to break free of this emotional response or suggestions in habits that I can implement to build stronger mental fortitude to be able to brush aside the anger directed at me and help me focus on her in those moments