May '25 • All Members Post Here
Why I talk to strangers
I got chatting with a stranger in the park yesterday.
She was walking a sausage dog, and we ended up sitting together for half an hour.
Random?
Maybe.
I mention it because it's incredibly difficult for people to get in the present moment and really enjoy what they're doing.
We're always thinking ahead.
Or behind.
Rarely right here, right NOW.
And it's not until something radically changes your circumstances that you get a chance to appreciate the present.
It might sound cliche…
But it can be challenging to enjoy what you're doing in the present moment.
That's why I make myself talk to strangers everywhere I go.
Today alone, I've spoken to:
- a receptionist
- a security guard
- a lifeguard
- a flower man
- a gardener
And yet…
I'm naturally introverted.
Sure…
I do public speaking and run events.
But I'm actually quite quiet by nature…
I don't need to always share my thoughts and I'm comfortable sitting in silence.
On the other hand…
When we went from live events to completely online, one of my biggest challenges was the lack of interaction.
Because the less you engage with people, the harder it is to engage with people.
For example:
My partner's been ignoring everyone at the gym. Now she has a reputation for being unfriendly, even though she's lovely.
Last week she decided to try my approach and afterwards she said:
"It's a bit nicer, isn't it, when you have a nice little chat…"
Exactly!
Speaking to strangers is a muscle.
When you don't use it, every interaction feels awkward.
When it's strong, you can connect with anyone.
And that connection is the heart of great coaching.
If you can't be fully present with a stranger for 5 minutes, how will you be fully present with clients who are paying you?
If you can't listen deeply to someone talking about their dog, how will you listen deeply to someone's intimate personal problems?
So here's my challenge for you today:
Speak to 3 people you'd normally ignore.
In real life.
Just a simple conversation.
No agenda. No selling.
Just be there, in that moment, with another human.
It might feel uncomfortable if you're out of practice.
But it's one of the best ways to become a better coach.
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