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Staying In Victim Mode

Some psychologists and therapists speak about how some people who have been the victim of narcissistic abuse tend to want to stay in that victim hood and ultimately become a narcissist their self.

They say they will not be introspective enough to heal. Perhaps they will be the empath and/or codependent and they can switch to becoming a narcissist, as in switch from being the victim to the abuser which is essentially what a narcissist does. What are your thoughts?!?

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I do think that sometimes people exposed to abusive behaviour and traumas can stay in a place of victimhood. I know some women who are still suffering years later, alcoholism, ill health, poverty.

Not sure they “WANT” to stay that way.

I would say they are not sure how to alter and change their circumstances and situation.

It is no good just telling people to “move on” or “forget the past” that is not the answer. When a person has experienced some deep trauma through emotional and psychological behaviours inflicted by the person they loved it has a deep hurt that can cause what is known as post traumatic stress disorders. (Personal Injuries)

I know how I felt in 2018 when my now ex confessed to meeting with another woman while he was in the UK.

I studied some personal development materials while I suffered #panicattacks, sleepless nights, pains in my body, then one day I woke up and said to myself, “I’m killing myself slowly” and I was.

My thoughts were causing me stress and ill-health. Look at the word “disease”

dis-ease. When you are in a place of dis ease your energy is low, your thoughts are uncertainty, fear, shame, grief.

To feel better you have to make a decision to move away from the negative thoughts, to regain positivity, to regain strengths you had before, to rebuild yourself. No one else can help you, only you can help yourself.

First make the decision for change, then take the actions, the small steps, towards the person you want to be. Either the victor or the victim it’s your choice.

I don’t believe the victim becomes the abuser. But I am not a psychologist or a trained therapist of any kind.

I do realise that being or remaining a victim can lead to low self esteem, confusion, poor decision making, attracting poor relationships, and being in a place of dis ease that leads to physical and mental illness.

What do you think? Let me know in the comments. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻

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