“Honestly”, do you feel disconnected? · Expert Coach Certification

“Honestly”, do you feel disconnected?

Clients always say to me that the hardest person to be honest with is their partner.

And while I appreciate that for some that is the case.

But from all my years of coaching (both my clients and myself), what I’ve found is, really the hardest person to be honest with isn't your partner at all… it's yourself.

People often say they want to feel connected to their partner, but real connection doesn’t start when someone holds your hand or leans in for a kiss.

Connection starts when you stop running from what’s going on inside you and you start being honest….

Honest about your connection with yourself.

The first step it to stop acting like everything’s okay and actually face the things you don’t like to admit…

The fear…

The guilt…

The shame…

The loneliness.

And instead of trying to bury them and pretend they don’t exist, be honest about then and just sit with them and listen.

Because connection isn't built on chemistry or attraction.

Connection is built on honesty and the self-awareness to say, “This is me right now and this is where I’m at”, even when it feels scary and uncomfortable.

And when you do that, something changes.

You start to feel seen because you’ve been open, and you’ve shared what is happening for you right now.

Now you are being truthful with what you had been afraid to share.

And this is where true connection begins.

Connection no longer feeling like a show and starts feeling real.

And it’s all because you’ve stopped pretending.

The connection isn’t about the physical contact, it’s about you and your partner saying to each other, “I get you.”

And it starts with you.

Honestly, how connected are you with you right now?

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