Boundaries and Emotional Safety · Expert Coach Certification

Boundaries and Emotional Safety

Hey everyone,

I came across a very insightful Instagram Post that I wanted to share with you all.

It features a skit about enforcing boundaries with a narcissist and emphasizes an essential truth: boundaries are actions we take in response to others' behaviors.

In the skit, the person explains that a boundary is not just a request but something we do to protect ourselves.

The discussion ends with the suggestion that going no contact can be a crucial boundary when dealing with someone who does not respect our emotional safety.

This brings us to an important conversation about the concept of boundaries and the necessity of going no contact with people who are not emotionally safe for us.

Acknowledging our need for emotional safety sometimes means setting very strong boundaries, including no contact with those who refuse to respect us.

It's important to recognize that going no contact is a very valid option for those who are in a position to do so. It can be empowering to forgive someone and even understand that, in their own way, they may love you.

However, it’s also essential to recognize when someone is a risk to your personal emotional safety and to maintain no contact for that reason.

People often misinterpret forgiveness as meaning you have to give that person access to you.

It's possible to forgive someone, accept the relationship as it is, and still protect your emotional safety by not giving them access to you anymore.

Unfortunately, there are situations where some may not be in a position to go no contact just yet.

For those individuals, it's crucial to continue to seek ways to protect your emotional well-being and establish other forms of boundaries until you are able to fully disengage.

This conversation is particularly important for those who have experienced emotional abuse, especially from close family members.

Often, society encourages them to forgive and maintain relationships with their abusers, disregarding their very valid experiences to placate those who disrespect their boundaries and personhood.

I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences on this topic.

Here’s the link to the Instagram Post: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C7HDeTIuKq1/?igsh=MWhwODl3cXdoYmVhZg%3D%3D

Looking forward to our discussion!

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