19h • Free Series
Post 3 of Disrespect Week
Some of you are correcting your child…but the disrespect is still happening.
And you’re sitting there thinking “I already told them about this.”“I already disciplined this.”“Why does it keep happening?”
Let me tell you why. Because correction by itself does not stop behavior.
Consistency does. Structure does. Follow-through does.
Let’s break this down.
1. You’re correcting, but not following through.
You said:
“Don’t talk to me like that again.”
They did it again…
and nothing really happened.
So now your child learned:
“She doesn’t mean what she says.”
Children don’t respect words.They respect patterns.
2. Too many warnings.
Some parents say the same thing 4–5 times:
“Stop.”“I said stop.”“Don’t do that.”“I’m serious.”“Okay that’s your last warning.”
By the time you finally act, your authority is already weak.
Say it once.
Then move.
3. You’re correcting in emotion instead of authority.
When correction sounds like
yelling, arguing, going back and forth
your child is no longer focused on what they did…
they’re focused on YOURRRR reaction.
Now it becomes a power struggle instead of leadership.
4. Consequences don’t match the behavior.
If a child is disrespectful and the consequence is:
“Go sit down.”
That doesn’t teach anything.
But when consequences require effort and responsibility:
• cleaning baseboards• wiping walls• organizing spaces• doing something that takes time and discipline
Now they feel it.
Not out of anger… but out of structure.
5. You let it slide when you’re tired.
Some days you correct it.Some days you ignore it.
But to a child, that feels like:
“Sometimes this is okay.”
And whatever is sometimes okay… becomes normal.
6. You’re talking too much.
Long lectures don’t build respect.
They build confusion and tuning out.
You don’t need a speech.
You need:
clear words, clear boundary, clear consequence
7. There is no established standard in the home.
If your child doesn’t clearly know:
“How we speak in this house, What respect looks like, What happens when it’s broken”
Then they will test the line every time.
Because the line isn’t clear.
8. You’re expecting change without repetition.
Children learn through repetition.
Not one correction.Not one consequence.
Repetition.
Same response.Same boundary.Every time.
That’s how behavior changes.
Disrespect doesn’t continue because your child is “just bad.”
It continues because somewhere…
the system in the home is inconsistent.
And the moment you fix the system…
the behavior starts to change.
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Post 3 of Disrespect Week
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