Before I say anything else I want to say something from my heart. I pray everyone reads this with the spirit it was written in. This is always a touchy conversation. But as touchy as it is for us our children are navigating it every single day. In classrooms. On playgrounds. In rooms where they are the only one who looks like them. And they are navigating it without us ..unless we decide to show up. If anyone disagrees with anything I say tonight I welcome that conversation. In love. In Christ. Because we can disagree and still agree on Jesus. That is the foundation everything else stands on. Now let's go. Yes. Racism is real. It is not a political opinion. It is not up for debate. It is a documented part of human history and a present reality in our world. Black people have not always been dealt a fair hand. Slavery. Lynching. Systemic barriers that didn't disappear because laws changed. That history is real and our children ALL of our children deserve to know it. Ruby Bridges. Harriet Tubman. Martin Luther King Jr. These are not just Black history. These are American history. Human history. And every child regardless of skin color should know these names and what they walked through because empathy is built on understanding and you cannot understand what you were never taught. But here is where I want to take us tonight. This conversation is not about who had it worse. It is not a competition of pain. Because the truth is a Black person may call a white person trailer trash. A white person may say the N word to a Black person. Hatred does not belong to one race. Hurt people hurt people across every color line. The goal tonight is not to assign blame. The goal is to teach our children how to SEE. What we need our children to understand is............... -The person standing in front of them is not responsible for the past they didn't live. -That white child did not own slaves. -That Black child did not burn anything down. -That person across the table from them whatever their color is carrying a story your child has never heard.

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Hi Friends, I have missed you all. Life has been pretty busy. Praying everyone has been well. Please keep my son and I in prayer. Praying all the kids are ending school safe and with great grades, and that everyone has a safe summer.

Happy Mother’s Day to the moms doing work that nobody claps for enough. For the late nights and early mornings. For the car rides, the appointments, the school meetings, the grocery runs, the prayers whispered over sleeping babies. For the disrespect you had to correct while still trying not to lose yourself. For the moments you felt inadequate but still got up and did what needed to be done. To the mom with no support. To the mom whose husband is present but still not really helping. To the mom dealing with a baby father who acts like parenting is optional. To the single mom carrying what was supposed to be shared. To the military wife holding the house down while he’s away. To the mom whose husband, boyfriend, or child’s father never showed up the way he should have. I see you. To the mom standing up to school systems. To the mom fighting discrimination. To the mom advocating for a child with ADHD, autism, tics, anxiety, sensory needs, or neurodivergence. To the mom whose child doesn’t have a diagnosis yet, but deep down you know something is different and you’re fighting to be heard. I see you too. To the mom with stretch marks. To the mom with the C-section scar. To the mom who pushed out an 8-pound baby and still somehow had to get up and be somebody’s whole world. To the mom healing from birth, grief, trauma, disappointment, and still making breakfast. Baby, crowns off. Hats off. Heels off. Sneakers off. TOOO YOUUUUU Because motherhood is not soft work. It is holy work. It is unseen work. It is exhausting work. It is sacrifice, prayer, tears, laughter, correction, forgiveness, and getting back up over and over again. And no, you don’t always get it right. But you keep showing up. So today, I pray somebody loves on you. I pray somebody sees you. I pray somebody gives you rest without making you ask for it 15 times. I pray God reminds you that your labor is not invisible to Him. Happy Mother’s Day, mama. You are doing more than you think. And you are loved more than you know.

A lot of us keep correcting the meltdown, the attitude, the whining, the begging, and the disrespect that comes after we say no. But have we trained our children how to receive “no”? Because “no” is not abuse.“No” is not rejection.“No” is not you being mean.“No” is not the end of love. “No” is a boundary. And children need to be trained on what to do when they don’t get the answer they wanted. So instead of only saying: “Stop crying.”“Stop begging.”“Don’t talk back.”“Why are you acting like that?” Train the response. You can say: “I know you don’t like my answer. You can be disappointed, but you cannot be disrespectful.” Then teach them what to do next. 1. Name the feeling “I’m mad.”“I’m sad.”“I’m disappointed.”“I wanted a yes.” 2. Respect the answer “The answer is no.”“I don’t have to like it, but I do have to respect it.” 3. Calm the body Take a breath.Walk away.Sit down.Get quiet for a moment. 4. Try again with respect “Okay, Mom.”“Can I ask again another time?”“I’m disappointed, but I understand.” This is training. Not giving in because they cried. Not arguing because they begged. Not changing the answer because they got loud. Training. Because if our children cannot handle “no” at home, the world will not be gentle teaching it to them later. They need to learn: I can be disappointed and still be respectful.I can feel upset and still obey.I can want something and still accept a boundary.I can hear “no” and not fall apart. And parents, we have to model this too. When God tells us no, do we tantrum in our own way? Do we complain?Do we rush ahead?Do we get bitter?Do we stop praying? Sometimes we are asking children to handle “no” better than we handle it with God. So today, train it. When your child asks for something and the answer is no, don’t just drop the no and walk away. Say: “I’m going to help you practice receiving no.” Then use this script: “I’m disappointed, but I can handle no.” Have them repeat it. They’re learning emotional strength. Question for today: