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Post 2 of Disrespect Week 🧡
Let’s talk about something a lot of parents get wrong.
Everything is not disrespect.
And everything is not “just kids being kids” either.
If you don’t learn the difference, you’ll either:
• overcorrect your child
or
• allow behavior that should’ve been addressed
Let’s break this down for real.
1. Disrespect is intentional. Childish behavior is developmental.
If your child rolls their eyes and says:
“I don’t have to listen to you.”
That’s disrespect.
If your 5-year-old is whining, crying, or struggling to express themselves…
That’s not disrespect. That’s immaturity.
They don’t have the tools yet.
2. Big emotions are not disrespect.
Your child crying, getting frustrated, or even raising their voice out of overwhelm…
That’s emotion.
But…
If they’re yelling at you in a way that is rude, dismissive, or defiant?
Now we’re stepping into disrespect.
Example:
“I’m mad!” → emotion
“You’re stupid, I’m not listening!” → disrespect
3. Not listening is not always disrespect.
Sometimes kids don’t listen because:
• they’re distracted
• they’re overstimulated
• they didn’t process what you said
That’s not always rebellion.
BUT…
If you clearly gave an instruction, they understood it, and they choose to ignore you?
That’s a boundary issue that needs to be corrected.
4. Tone matters.
A child saying:
“I don’t want to do that right now…”
in a calm but honest tone → that’s communication
A child saying:
“I’m not doing that!” with attitude and defiance → that’s disrespect
Same words. Different spirit.
5. Age matters.
A 4-year-old saying something wild?
You correct and teach.
A 14-year-old speaking to you crazy?
That needs to be addressed immediately.
Because what’s “cute” at 4 becomes a serious problem at 14.
6. Some parents are correcting emotion instead of behavior.
Telling your child:
“Stop crying.”
“Why are you so sensitive?”
That’s shutting down emotion.
Instead say:
“I see you’re upset, but you still need to speak respectfully.”
Now you’re teaching both:
emotion + respect
7. Some parents ignore real disrespect because they’re tired.
Sometimes we let things slide because:
• we don’t feel like dealing with it
• we’re exhausted
• we just want peace in the moment
But every time you ignore disrespect, you are teaching your child:
“This is allowed.”
And kids will repeat what is allowed.
So here’s the goal this week:
Learn to discern before you react.
Ask yourself:
“Is this my child lacking skill… or crossing a boundary?”
Then respond accordingly.
Because strong parents don’t just react…
They understand what they’re dealing with first.
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Post 2 of Disrespect Week 🧡
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