“Welcome to the 7-Day Holiday Challenge”

🖐️Hi, I’m Pam. I’m really glad you’re here.

If you’ve clicked into this challenge, chances are the holidays feel… complicated.

Maybe there’s an empty chair this year. Maybe you’re exhausted by being “the strong one.”Maybe you’re grateful and resentful and lonely and numb—sometimes all before lunch.

If that’s you, you’re in the right place.

This is 7 Days of Light in a Heavy Season: A Holiday Grief & Gratitude Challenge, and it’s a gentle introduction to my year-long program, 365 – A Year to Live: Live fully, one breath at a time.

👉What this challenge is (and what it isn’t)

Let me start with something honest:

If you’re here hoping to “fix” your grief in seven days, I’m going to disappoint you.

Grief isn’t a problem you solve; it’s a love story that has lost its familiar form.

👉What we can do in seven days is:

Make a little more room for your heart to breathe.
Put a little structure around a season that may feel chaotic or unreal.
Help you find tiny moments of meaning and connection in the middle of it all.

Think of this as a series of guided pauses during the holidays—time where you’re not performing, not caretaking, not “holding it together” for everyone else. Just you, your truth, and some simple practices.

How it works

👉Here’s the rhythm we’ll follow:

7 lessons over 7 days.
Each day, you’ll get a different lesson that all eventual blend together no matter the process.
You can do them in order, or at your own pace. There are no gold stars here.

You do not have to share anything in the community if you don’t want to. You can move quietly through the lessons and simply let them work on you.

If you do share, you’ll find others who are also navigating grief, love, and the strange pressure of the holidays. You are not the only one feeling this way, even if it’s felt that way for a long time.

What we’ll touch together

👉Here’s a quick peek at where we’re going:

Day 1: Naming the season you’re actually in—not the one commercials tell you you’re supposed to be in.
Day 2: The “empty chair”—who or what is missing—and how to give that absence a place instead of pretending it’s not there.
Day 3: Gratitude that doesn’t gaslight you. You’re allowed to be grateful and still hurting.
Day 4: Building a small “memory altar” with objects and stories that matter to you.
Day 5: Mortality benchmarks—gently remembering that we don’t have infinite holidays, and using that truth to clarify what matters now.
Day 6: A tiny act of legacy—a note, a recipe, a voice message that might outlive you.
Day 7: Closing the circle, noticing what’s shifted, and choosing one practice to carry forward.

Each step is small on purpose. Holidays already demand so much of your energy. This is meant to restore you, not drain you.

A few ground rules for this space:

💓Because this work is tender, a few agreements can help us feel safer together:

Kindness first.Speak to others—and yourself—the way you would speak to someone at a bedside.
No fixing, no preaching.When people share, they don’t need solutions or spiritual pep talks. They need to be seen.
Share from the “I.”Tell your own truth instead of giving advice: “In my experience…” rather than “You should…”
Take what serves you, leave the rest.Not every practice will fit. That’s okay. Your body and your boundaries get the final vote.

☝️If at any point this challenge feels too intense, you have permission to slow down, skip a day, or come back later. That’s not failure; that’s wisdom.

😃Who I am and why I’m here with you

I’ve spent over 45 years sitting with people at the end of life and with the families who love them.

I’ve watched what happens when we never talk about death and loss until it’s right on top of us.I’ve also seen the deep peace and beauty that can unfold when we start these conversations earlier—when we live with the awareness that our time, and our holidays, are finite.

I often say: “Live well. Plan well. Die well.”And another favorite: “Put the kettle on, I’m on my way.”

To me, that’s what this challenge is: you put the kettle on by showing up here. I’ve shown up too. Together, we’ll see what wants to be softened, honored, and remembered over these next seven days.

👉How this connects to 365

This 7-day challenge is a tiny window into the deeper work we do in 365 – A Year to Live.

In 365, we spend a whole year:

Exploring mortality and meaning
Working with grief and forgiveness
Shaping legacy, practical plans, and end-of-life wishes
And, most importantly, learning how to live more fully now—not someday

If, by the end of these seven days, you feel a tug to keep going, there will be a “Continue the Journey” lesson where I explain how 365 works and how to join. No pressure. Just an invitation.

👉For now, your only job is to show up for the next day.

What I want you to do next. Before you dive into Day 1, I invite you to do three very small things:

Take a breath.Right now. In… and out. You made it here. That matters.
Set an intention.Something simple like, “For the next seven days, I will tell myself the truth,” or “I will be 10% kinder to my heart.”
Look ahead at the lesson list.Notice if there’s a day that excites you, and a day that scares you. Both are good information. You can move gently, at your own pace.

👉Thank you for trusting me enough to walk into this space.

The holidays can be noisy. Let this be your quiet room, your warm mug, your place to lay some of the weight down.

When you’re ready, go to Lesson 1 – This Holiday, This Heart: Naming Your Season and we’ll begin.

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