Need to get back to my gratitude mindset!

I wanted to introduce myself honestly, because this is one of the few kinds of spaces where honesty actually belongs. I’ve lived with a lot of loss. I’m the only surviving member of my family of origin. My mother died when I was 27 and pregnant with my second child. My brother died at 49.My niece was murdered in 2011 at the age of 18. My husband lives with CLL — it’s quiet right now and likely will be for years, but the not-knowing is part of our daily weather. Because of this, I think about death, grief, and legacy a lot. Not in a morbid way — more as companions. They’ve shaped how I love, how I choose, and how I pay attention to what matters. I’m deeply grateful for a community where we can name the ugly, tender, unsayable parts out loud — without rushing to make meaning or turn pain into inspiration. I’m here to listen, to learn, and to be alongside others who know that grief doesn’t make us broken — it makes us human.

I got a piece of mail today that was addressed to my son who passed away in 2022. It’s not as painful as it was getting his mail in 2022, 2023, etc. it doesn’t make me cry anymore.

One of the best ideas I picked up from Daniel Pink's 2026 video:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q10H5RA3eCA, was to create a list of behaviors that no longer serve you. These are time and energy wasters and keep from from being your best self. This year, start with about 3 items....these are you "To Don't" list. Ask yourself if you stopped doing these things for 90 days, how better would your life be?

✨🕯️As 2026 opens its quiet door, I’m wishing you true prosperity—the kind you can feel in your bones. Prosperity isn’t just money in the bank. It’s peace in the nervous system. It’s relationships you can lean on. It’s time spent on what you’ll never regret. And for those stepping into this new year with an empty chair… I see you. The calendar may change overnight, but the heart doesn’t follow deadlines. If you’re celebrating and aching at the same time, you’re not doing it wrong—you’re loving. So before the year gets loud, here’s my gentle invitation: Choose meaning over motion. Choose presence over performance. Choose truth over habit. Choose love—again and again. One honest question to carry with you: What do I want my life to stand for in 2026? Not what looks impressive. Not what keeps everyone else comfortable. What’s meaningful. What’s real. What leaves you more you? If you’d like, drop one word that you want to guide your 2026—or share a name of someone you’re carrying into this year. We’ll make room at the table. 🫖✨ I'll put the kettle on................ Pam