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Boxing Day, The Quiet Gift of Integration
Boxing Day has a very different energy to Christmas Day, doesn’t it?
The rush has softened.
The expectations have loosened their grip.
The noise has settled.
And what we’re left with is space.
This is the day I’ve come to love most, not because it’s spectacular, but because it’s honest. Boxing Day invites us to integrate rather than perform. To gently unpack what the season stirred up and decide what we want to carry forward… and what we’re finally ready to put down.
A Day for the Nervous System 💛
After the intensity of Christmas, the emotions, the memories, the family dynamics, the joy and the grief often woven together, Boxing Day offers our nervous systems a long exhale.
No pressure to be “on.”
No need to prove anything.
No forced cheerfulness.
Just permission to be.
This is where real wellbeing lives. Not in perfection, but in presence.
Polyvagal Theory Made Simple 🌿
At its core, Polyvagal Theory explains something deeply reassuring:
Your nervous system is always scanning for cues of safety or cues of danger like a nosy neighbour curtain twitching.
When life feels manageable, we’re in our Ventral Vagal state, the safe and social zone where we feel calm, connected, and open. But when stress ramps up (hello, Christmas!), we naturally shift into survival modes like fight/flight or freeze.
Nothing has gone wrong.
Your body is doing its job.
The goal of regulation isn’t to “fix” yourself it’s simply to send signals of safety back to the brain.
The Three States of the Nervous System 🚦
Think of these as colours rather than labels:
🟢 Ventral Vagal, The Green Zone
State: Safe and Social
Feels like: Calm, connected, curious, grounded
This is where rest, digestion, learning, creativity, and healing happen.
🔴 Sympathetic, The Red Zone
State: Fight or Flight
Feels like: Anxious, irritable, rushed, overwhelmed
Your heart rate increases and your body prepares for action.
🔵 Dorsal Vagal, The Blue Zone
State: Freeze / Shutdown
Feels like: Numb, flat, exhausted, disconnected
This is the nervous system’s last-ditch protective response, not laziness or failure.
We move through these states all the time. Regulation is simply learning how to guide yourself back toward green.
Three Gentle Ways to Signal Safety 🌬️
These are perfect for Boxing Day, simple, effective, and kind.
1. The Physiological Sigh
A fast reset for stress and overwhelm
How to do it:
Inhale deeply through your nose.
At the very top, take a second, shorter “sip” of air.
The finish:
Exhale slowly through your mouth with a long sigh as if breathing through a straw.
Why it works:
That extended exhale directly signals the vagus nerve to slow the heart rate and calm the body.
Try this 2–3 times and notice the shift.
2. The Vagal Neck Stretch
Soothing the nervous system through gentle movement
How to do it:
Interlace your fingers behind your head.
Keep your head facing forward, but move only your eyes to the far right.
The finish:
Hold until you notice a yawn, swallow, or sigh (usually 30–60 seconds).
Repeat on the left.
Why it works:
The vagus nerve runs behind the neck. This gentle stretch stimulates the nerve pathway and nudges you back toward calm.
3. Peripheral Vision Softening
An instant cue of safety
When we’re stressed, our vision narrows into tunnel vision. Wide vision tells the brain: I’m safe.
How to do it:
Pick a point in front of you to look at.
Without moving your eyes, begin to notice what’s in your far left and far right vision.
The finish:
Soften your gaze and let yourself take in the whole room at once.
Why it works:
Wide-angle vision is physically incompatible with fight-or-flight.
Unpacking the Inner Boxes 📦
Boxing Day is traditionally about boxes, giving things away, redistributing, creating space. I love that symbolism for the mind.
Take a quiet moment and reflect (on paper or just internally):
This Christmas brought up…
I noticed myself feeling…
One thing I’m ready to release is…
One thing I’d like to keep nurturing is…
No fixing. No judging. Just noticing.
A Gentle Intention 🌱
Place one hand on your heart and one on your belly.
Say softly:
As I move forward, I choose to support myself with…
.........
Let the answer arise naturally.
A word. A feeling. A quality.
Seal it with one slow, steady exhale.
That’s enough for today.
A Final Word 📃
If this season has felt tender, you’re not failing, you’re human.
If it’s felt peaceful, let your body remember that feeling.
If it’s felt confusing, trust that clarity grows in stillness.
Boxing Day reminds us that nothing needs fixing today.
Just felt.
Just acknowledged.
Just gently held.
I’m so glad you’re here, part of this Joyful Mind community, learning to live in rhythm with your nervous system rather than in battle with it.
With warmth and calm,
Amanda Joy
Joyful Mind Mentor 💛
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