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What if we measured success by how safe people feel around us?
I was sent this one yesterday and haven’t been able to stop thinking about it since.
Curious to know your thoughts on this one 🙏
My thoughts:
Our society seems to value status and money above allow, but beyond a certain point, beyond a certain amount, once your needs have been met and perhaps a bit more, what does any of that worth?
Contrast that against feelings of safety.
The value I place in the people close to me, those I feel safe around, is insurmountable, and of course, I hope to offer that to the world.
I remember a couple of years ago reading a book about trauma informed yoga, it was highlighting how the practitioner should ask before touching the body of a client, rather than just simply moving them into position .
It makes sense when it’s said out loud, but if it’s the ‘done thing’ in a career or a profession, it may not be obvious until it is highlighted.
Immediately applied that to my jujitsu coaching where coaches just assumed consent for contact (moving people into position to show them a move). I began asking, and the relief on some people’s faces was immediately apparent. No one ever said no, but the gesture itself resonated.
Reflected upon this, and the impact upon safety in relationships with friends, family, and everyone, I think I will begin to judge my success as a measure of feelings of safety - but not just how people feel about me, but how I feel about the people in my life.
If I find myself not feeling safe around people, I will leave (which is of course expressed in the second meme).
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What if we measured success by how safe people feel around us?
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