Saboteur or Supporter? · High Vibe Tribe

Saboteur or Supporter?

The topic of supporters versus saboteurs came up earlier today. Sometimes a saboteur can come dressed up as a supporter, I am intentionally reflecting on characteristics of both.

Saboteur Signs:

They compete with you and/or downplay your wins

They spill all your secrets

They’re only supportive when you’re struggling

Compliments feel like insults

They badmouth you and gossip to others

They compare you to others and put you down

They never apologize

Supporters:

Active Listening

Celebrate Your Success

Provide a Safe, Non-Judgmental Space

Respects Boundaries

Consistency

Mutuality/Reciprocity

They apologize and take accountability/own their part in any disagreement

As I am moving forward, I have received echos and challengers from the past. While this has been agitating at times, it has offered an opportunity to respond in a way that is in more alignment versus falling into the old traps.

I'd love to hear any input on how you have handled these echos or intentional boomerang Saboteurs.

What are your go-to strategies?

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