Learn to Accept Things Outside Your Control Full Guide

I used to struggle with things outside of my control:

Having to go to school or work whenever I didn't really want to
Having to do family chores or obligations whenever I really just wanted to do something else and that something else was productive made it even worse

I struggled to accept things outside of my control but fortunately I learned a certain way to think about this and some more things to accept this and I just want to share that with you today.

View from above.

This is a mindset sort of thing where you look at whatever problem or whatever things outside of your control and you look at it as if you're looking down at yourself as if it's a 2D satellite image.

You be like, "Will this problem matter in the next five seconds from now? Five minutes from now? Or five months from now? Or even five years from now?" Usually the answer will be no and that's it really.

2. You can take responsibility for the things that are in your control.

Give it this example: imagine you have to do a family chore you really don't want to.

You can't be bothered because you're doing something else that day.

There are always some things that are in your control.

Maybe the deeper reason why you don't want to go on the family trip or whatever is because you want to work on your business.

What is in your control in that situation?

You can choose to work on your phone while on the trip…

In that case though you can still control whether you choose to work or not on your phone.

Are you just going to scroll and cope and say, "Oh I couldn't do it now since I'm on this," but the truth is there are always things inside of your control and if you think of it this way you can accept whenever you get forced to do something that was outside of your control.

3. Mental health: simply the 80/20 to mental health is:

Meditation
Gratitude journaling
Exercise
Heal your trauma

How to do them?

Meditation: download the Medito app and it will show you everything, I would say 3 minutes at the very least.
Gratitude journal: just write down somewhere what you're grateful for, at least one thing every day. It can be as simple as "I am grateful for my laptop."
Exercise: try to do at least 15 minutes, I'd say, of exercise every day. That could be a walk or whatever and ideally do more than that but that's the bare minimum.
Heal trauma: that's where you bring up your own processed emotion via a method if your liking. You process that unprocessed emotion and you do that on repeat for all the traumatic events in your life, this process is something I have done for months and I still have trauma to heal, it only takes me a few minutes each morning.

That's all there is to it and hopefully you learned something from my lessons.

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Learn to Accept Things Outside Your Control Full Guide