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Day 3 HW

CORE EVENT THAT HAPPENED YOUR PAST: Describe a core event from your past that you see as a developmental event in your life that holds you back in the present:

1. My parents divorced when I was young.

2. Shortly after, I developed a health issue.

STORY AROUND THE CORE EVENT: What is the story that you tell yourself around this core event? How does it make you feel and act in the present?

1. My parents had a bad divorce. Due to their poor relationship, they used me as their mediator since they weren't speaking to each other. Furthermore, due to the divorce, my relationship with my dad grew distant until, after a few years, I never saw him alive again. I saw him after almost 23 years at his funeral. My parents' divorce has affected my entire love life and how I function in relationships. From a young age, I experienced a sense of loneliness, feeling that my voice wasn't heard, that I didn't belong, that I was being abandoned, and that I constantly had to emotionally support others and try to maintain balance regardless of how I felt. Until recently, that was exactly how I functioned in my romantic relationships too, and to some extent, I still do. Specifically, in my romantic relationships, I am always overly understanding, overgiving, offering emotional support, and trying to find solutions to problems even when I haven't been asked to. Also, during my parents' divorce, due to sadness and tension in the house, I developed a health issue a few years later, which also affects me in the present.

2. Due to my health issue (which, okay, is not that serious but significantly affects the quality of my daily life), I always believed that there was something wrong with me, that I wasn't good enough, and that it would be difficult for someone to love me just the way I am. Generally, I felt ashamed and always had insecurities around it. Even today, though I have worked on it quite a bit, I always have to be careful, deprive myself of certain foods, and fear that my body might betray me in some way.

REFRAMING OF THE CORE EVENT: How can you reframe the story around the core event to find positive aspects or transformations?

The truth is that both events led me to be the girl I am today. If I hadn't faced all these obstacles, I would never have turned towards spirituality, and I would have never worked on myself.

Specifically, my parents' divorce led me to build a new family (dear friends that I still have to this day), to be self-sufficient, assertive, to discover my talents, to be funny, to go to a psychologist and work on my "shadows," and, most importantly, to know that whatever I have achieved in life is due to my own effort and not because of others. Correspondingly, my health issue made me search deeper on a spiritual level, eat better, exercise, and take care of myself inside and out.

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Day 3 HW