For some time now, I’ve had this little hobby where I’ve gone on Tik Tok to listen to this Radio Station that existed years ago where 3 individuals would receive an email to the radio station about people trying to connect with the person they went on a date with to see what went wrong so what would happen is that the radio station would call the other person who went on a date with the person who wrote in into the station on their behalf to say they are live on the radio and they are calling because they do a segment on their show called the “Second Date Update” that’s where when you go on a date with someone and blow them off afterwards they can email them to get ahold of them to find out what happened and why they don’t wanna go out again and I absolutely love that concept because it would teach the person what they did wrong on the date and teach them what not to do moving forward. That radio show was absolutely hilarious with these second date updates it was just crazy to me to hear what bizarre things people do on first dates that cost them actually to move forward with the other person they go out with it is ridiculous what mistakes people do that afterwards leaves them scratching their head not knowing what they did wrong and why their date doesn’t want to go out with them again. I really like listening to this show despite the fact that it doesn’t exist anymore they left an impression on me because they actually help people to get to date each other again after they learn what went wrong and offer to pay for a second date so they can go out again. People would actually discover shocking things about what the other person did on the first date that would make people who were listening on the radio realize that if a person can just be honest and invested completely in the person they are going out with without making absurd mistakes that they can actually keep dating that person just by showing curiosity and genuine interest towards the other person. Just by listening to that show I learn what other things to do or not do on a date. I wish the show was still around it certainly gave me excitement and thrill towards my dating scene in life. But yes, you can learn a lot about the person you go out on a date with by how they behave and the things they do on the first date.

My love/dating life has been a real challenge for me these past few years. I used to fall for girls that were already with someone and for a long time I considered that my curse but I finally feel like that curse has been lifted. I no longer chase women that are taken, I now peacefully let them go if I find out they are with someone and allow myself to feel happy with someone else who’s not taken. They’re used to be a time when I was attracted to a coworker of mine and she was single too but at that point in my life what was stopping me was truly not fear, instead I held myself back from pursuing her and asking her out because I was being held back by someone who was always in my mind and who I still had feelings for only to learn in the end it was not worth still thinking about this person. I held myself back for a long time because I could not get over this person but with time and understanding I realized why continue to invest time and energy in someone who doesn’t want me? There was also another girl in that time who I really shared a romantic bond with and she was giving me all the signals and I noticed that but again I didn’t act on those signals because one I was afraid to risk it all and second there was still that person holding me back. I realized now if it wasn’t for those things I could have had those relationships with them and my dating life would of been more exciting. For a long time, I felt like this like there was nothing I could do because of the current circumstances. But now, things have changed completely. I’m happy to say I’m no longer held back by that person and I’m now free to like who I wanna like and be with who I want to be with. I’m now more self-aware when a girl is giving me signals and can tell if they like me or not. For a long time I was scared to approach a girl I like and ask them out and risk it all but now I am not afraid anymore. I am willing to risk it all because I have nothing to lose. For the first time in my life I feel free to pursue who I want to be with without restrictions or being held back by anything or anyone. I have slowly grown the courage to have the confidence to atleast go on speed dates to get to know women in the past few months. I feel like I’m in a much better place in my life when it comes to dating. I feel more handsome, more confident, more financially stable, but most importantly more in tune with my own emotions and feelings. I’ve never really had much help in life with things especially when it came to love I basically had to become a self educated man and have a desire to grown and learn on my own. My dating journey hasn’t been easy at all. But I’m still here trying to make a difference and find my special person I like to be with. Because at the end of the day. I don’t want to be with a woman just because “She’s Hot”, because that’s not the attraction I’m really looking for. Honestly, I’m looking for someone I can vibe with, where we could possibly have some stuff in common, being genuinely interested in one another and develop strong feelings for. I want someone who I can see myself growing with, who obviously has there life emotionally and mentally together, and who I can share a meaningful connection with that will dazzle me and someone I can genuinely be interested in for who they are and can reciprocate those same intentions towards me as well. Women have genuinely liked me in the past before but I couldn’t see it I was blind to what was in front of me this whole time but now I can see with clarity where my dating life is at and where I confidently want it to go. Being in this community has made me realize that and I’m thankful for it. I have an entire future to look forward to but now I will be dating with intention, with clarity on what I want and looking forward to, and confidently going after who I want in my life romantically. My dating life has taken quite a journey to get to this point but I feel like this is just the beginning. 😌

1. I over explain too much even when I have good intentions. 2. I trouble loving myself. 3. I lacked confidence in the past. 4. I hung out with the wrong crowds.

Im sorry i haven't been on here in a while its because ive been taking care of my mental health

I just want to show my appreciation to the people here who I’ve encountered with since I’ve been in this community and thank them for for the inspiration they given me in their own way to be a better person. @Ben W i see you had dates and you shared your experiences here and asked dating questions as well and just wanted to thank you for your involvement it inspire me to do better in my dating life. @Deleted my guy you been super active since day one as well thank you for keeping this community alive and for sharing your dating experiences with all of us. Hope your dating life is getting better and know that you will always have all of our support! @Richard Wilkins i recently saw your IG video of you thanking your dating coach for the things you learned and that your dating experiences have improved and you gained the confidence every man needs in dating to find love. Good for you man you inspire all of us to do better here! @Dylan Covert i recently saw you in a mock date session and your participation inspire me to understand dating better and to take things as they come. Your will to do better in dating inspire us all hope you achieve success in your dating life. @Carl Webber I seen your involvement in this community and it shows that even though we all have a lot to learn here, you still put in the effort to want to change for the better in your dating life and that’s inspiring. Don’t give up in trying to improve in your dating life and one day you will meet someone special. @Patrick White thank you for sharing your dating experiences and always trying to do better too. Your involvement keeps this community alive and even though here we just support each other, you sir definitely show support towards others and that’s inspiring means a lot to us it really does. Hope you get to be happy with someone someday. At last and certainly not least @Shelley Badayos. You are the reason we are all here and get to have a voice in this platform because you built it for us to better ourselves and help one another get better in our dating lives. Thank you for having keeping this community alive by helping us understand dating better and giving us a fighting chance to have in dating and approach it with clarity. I personally also want to thank you for the special help you giving me all this time I’ve known you. You helped me realize things I didn’t know before but now I do. Shelly you truly are one of a kind and an amazing person really don’t ever change! But yes just wanted to take to moment to thank each and every one of you for your participation towards this community as well as the others in this community too and for your involvement to better ourselves in our dating lives. Take a bow, you deserve it! Let’s always keep this community alive to understand better dating with clarity and confidence! 🙏🏻