For years, I’ve stopped myself from doing what I wanted to do because I think or overthink too much the situation and ignore my gut always. I always think before I acted. And sometimes I didn’t even act at all to avoid bad outcomes but I never would have really knew what the real outcome would have been if I never tried. They say you can do anything you set your mind to and the only person that can stop you is yourself. Thinking has cause me to discourage myself and give up on my desires in life. I recently heard an interview on how thinking affects your confidence and your ability to trust your gut and made me think on how true that is. I saw a movie called “Top Gun Maverick” and the line that is motivating me to go in a new direction is this one…”Don’t think. Just do.” The mindset of being “The Chooser” has also been brought to my attention on how I should focus on putting myself first and how things make me feel and if they benefit me. Do I really want this? Does doing this really make me happy? Before I use to just be attracted to women but never ask myself is this truly what I want? I always concern myself with am I good enough for her instead now I ask is she a good fit for me? I learn the difference between attraction and a spark. Attraction just means I’m attracted towards them because of how they look and try to be with them but they not reciprocating the same energy or giving me a reason to continue to talk to them I was just chasing. A spark however is getting to know the person your interested in and knowing more about them if they have what your looking for. If they reciprocate the energy always and give you a reason to want them. I’m approaching dating now with a mindset of instead of having to do something to now CHOOSING to do something. If I feel it and I start listening to my gut then I’m now choosing to act. I’m not letting my mind and brain hold me back anymore by having me think so much on something that could lead me in another direction now I’m in the driver’s seat and I decide what happens. I’m choosing what happens next and not letting other people or situations determine what happens to me next. No absolutely not!

So the other day I had a meaningful conversation with my dad over the phone where he gave me some good news and I got curious to know more about it. Dad: Hello Son, how’s it going? Me: Hey dad, I’m good just working. What’s up? Dad: I’m calling you because I have some good news guess what? Me: What is it? 👀 Dad: They finally confirmed it from the hospital and social security office that they approved my disability and now I will get disability benefits! Me: Yay good for you dad, I’m happy for you! Dad: Thank you for taking me that day to the hospital so I could do my physical test to decide if I get the disability and now I did get it! Me: Anytime dad, I’m curious though, what is it about this disability that your most happy about it? Dad: Well they will give me a debit card and now beginning January I will receive a considerable amount deposited to pay bills and buy groceries and that’s going to help me out a lot now that I’m no longer working and pretty much retired. Me: Yes it will definitely help you out a lot! Does it come with other benefits you could look into? Dad: Yes they will mail me the info and it will explain all the benefits there more detailed. Me: That’s great dad, I’m glad things are now looking up for you especially since you’re not working anymore. Just know you can always count on me, love you dad. Dad: I love you too son, take care.

Hi Everyone I like to take this opportunity to tell you all Happy Thanksgiving and hope you have a lovely dinner with your family today! Thanksgiving is literally my favorite holiday out of the whole year! Because all you have to do is eat! lol But it’s also a time for reflection so I like to address what things I’m thankful for this year. I’m thankful to be alive. To have an undeniable passion to become the better version of myself. I’m thankful for my health. I’m thankful that I’m being very motivated to take better care of myself not only mentally but physically too. I’m thankful to have been working on my health, my finances and my body with a nutrition plan now. However, one big thing I decided this year to give more focus to and do a change on is my dating life! I really want to be in a relationship so I’ve been focusing on approaching women more to strike conversations with them to see if I find one who I can have great chemistry with. For a long time, I didn’t know how to talk to women but this year you know what I’m thankful for also? I’m thankful for meeting our awesome dating coach that brought us all here today and that’s Shelley Badayos. Met her on instagram and we did a session and she truly is a genuine sweetheart who passionately helps men by giving them a fair and fighting chance to be with women by her dating coaching. Shelley is the real deal and her work brings extraordinary results in men to start having that dating life they always wanted. I learned so much by talking to her and watching her educational videos on how to approach women. Shelley cares so much about helping men who are not even her clients that she created “Dating With Clarity” literally in my eyes the best community I’ve ever had the privilege to be a part of. Because it made me feel that I can be open about my past and current experiences with women and share them with all of you great gents here and also support one another in our journey to be in a relationship. I just hope one day Shelley can truly be proud of me when the day comes that I get to be in a relationship with a lucky lady and give her credit for it happening because of her guidance and coaching. I’m thankful I finally feel like I’m getting my life on the right track with a willingness mentality to change it for the better and to look forward for the future and not giving up even in tough times. Always staying strong with my head held high walking into the new year with Confidence! 😌

It’s WIN WEDNESDAY! Before Thanksgiving hits, let’s ground ourselves in gratitude and celebrate the good things happening in our lives. What are you proud of this week? What are you grateful for? Drop it in the comments and let’s hype each other up 👇

So I’m currently going to occupational therapy because I have right & left wrists tendinitis pain and after a couple of therapy sessions the left wrist has gotten better but the right wrist still hurts. I went to therapy this Tuesday morning and they put heat packs on my wrists to reduce the pain as I was sitting through this I felt calm but then I noticed in front across from me was this lady with her 2 boys and she was also getting treatment with the heat packs for the wrists as well like me! So at this moment, I was feeling very curious about what her story could be because it seemed similar to mine and the curiousity in me was growing more that I got the urge to strike a conversation with her about it so I did. Me: Hi there! Do you happen to have the same pain with me on the wrists? Lady: No it’s actually Radial styloid tenosynovitis which is a bit severe inside the wrist but it did start with the wrists. What do you have? And how did yours start? Me: Oh I see I thought maybe you had the same thing as me. I have tendinitis on both wrists and I actually have no idea how it started one day it just hurt really bad and don’t recall hurting myself in anything to have caused it. Lady: Are you currently using anything to control the pain? Me: Just this splint brace. Lady: If it continues to hurt you might wanna do an X-Ray and get a cast too. Me: Yes, the X-Ray will definitely be next if this therapy doesn’t make my right wrist better. Lady: My Therapy is over but I hope your wrists get better! Me: Thank you I hope your condition gets better too! Throughout this whole conversation, I felt completely calmed with myself and with the curiousity to know her story and just attentively listening to her as she spoke to me as then we share concern for one another. Understanding how I feel before and during a conversation does show me to be more aware on how to converse with a lady. Just being curious can create conversations like it did for me so I will continue to be curious because you never know where it could lead to!