11h • Mindset & Reflection
Don’t know what to start working on? (Some gold nuggets for Friday)
Hey guys! Happy Fri-yay 🤭
Most men say they want to work on themselves
But what they really mean is
“I want dating to stop feeling stressful”
So let’s make it simple
When you like a woman, 1 of 3 things usually breaks down
And THAT’S where you start
1) Your nervous system
If your body goes into panic around women you’re into, you’ll sabotage without realizing it
👉🏻Overthinking
👉🏻Overtexting
👉🏻Trying to impress
👉🏻Freezing up
👉🏻Settling for “safe” conversations
What to work on:
Practice being calm while still showing interest
That’s confidence
Mini challenge for this week:
Next time you feel anxious, do this before you talk to her
Slow breath in
Slow breath out
Drop your shoulders
Relax your jaw
Then speak
Your MAIN GOAL IS TO BE PRESENT
2) Your standards
A lot of men chase because they don’t have a clear filter. So any attention feels like “this might be my chance”
👉🏻Then you tolerate mixed signals
👉🏻You over invest early
👉🏻You lose yourself trying to keep her
What to work on:
Get clear on what you want so you stop choosing from desperation
Quick prompt:
👉🏻A woman I choose has…
👉🏻A woman I avoid has…
If you can’t name these, you’ll keep repeating the same pattern
3) Your social confidence
Confidence isn’t a personality trait. It’s a skill built through reps
If you only “practice” when it’s a woman you really like, it will always feel high pressure. So you need low pressure reps.
What to work on:
👉🏻Talk to people daily with no agenda
👉🏻Build comfort with eye contact, small talk, and leading a conversation
Mini reps
👉🏻Ask someone for a recommendation
👉🏻Compliment someone and keep walking
👉🏻Start a 30 second convo and end it first
Your real starting point:
Pick the ONE that feels most true for you right now
👉🏻If dating makes you anxious start with nervous system
👉🏻If you keep chasing the wrong women start with standards
👉🏻If you avoid approaching start with social reps
Comment 1, 2, or 3 and I’ll tell you exactly what to focus on first based on your answer
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Don’t know what to start working on? (Some gold nuggets for Friday)
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