This was the day I flew across the sky in Florida. The first picture captures the moment before — standing on the platform, strapped into the harness, heart racing. The second picture is the follow-through — the moment where there was no turning back. My son Eugene helped strap me in. He was standing right there with me on the platform. My other children, along with my grandchildren, were on the ground looking up. Every one of them had their eyes on me. Once the harness was on and I said I was going to do it, I understood something clearly: this wasn’t just about fear. It was about responsibility. I was scared — but I was also being watched. They were watching how I respond to fear.They were watching whether I back out.They were watching whether fear gets the final word. In that moment, I wasn’t just making a choice for myself. I was modeling how to move forward when fear is present. So I went.

Trauma doesn’t just affect what happened to us.It affects how much we can hold — and how much choice we believe we have. That’s capacity.That’s agency. When capacity is low, people react.When capacity grows, people choose. This is why ACEs aren’t just something we learn about —they are something many of us have lived through. Healing doesn’t erase the past.It restores the ability to respond, to choose, and to move forward with intention. ACEs: Lived, Not Learned.

I suggest we need to build an email list and send out campaigns to potential people sharing the benefits of the community and also what they will gain ,i also feel if there can be a free ebook for now for incoming members, that will prompt them to refer their friends as well . What do you think about starting to build an email list and sending out campaign to them ?

Trauma doesn’t end with one person.When it isn’t addressed, it moves through generations.A child grows up carrying what was never healed. That’s why ACEs are lived — not learned. This isn’t theory.It’s lived experience, family patterns, coping strategies, silence, and survival showing up over time. Reflection (optional): - What’s something you once thought was “just how I am” that you later realized had roots in childhood? - What does addressing trauma look like for you right now — awareness, boundaries, support, rest? There’s no pressure to share more than you want.This space is for honesty, learning, and healing at your own pace. Every choice builds a life.Every breath is a chance to rebuild.

A lot of people think ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) are only about what happened in childhood. But ACEs don’t just live in memories — they live in the body. A child who grows up in constant stress learns early:Stay alert. Stay ready. Stay guarded. That stress response doesn’t turn off when childhood ends. It often grows up with us. Over time, the body can stay in survival mode — releasing stress hormones, tightening muscles, raising heart rate and blood pressure — even when there’s no immediate danger. That’s why we’re seeing more children with headaches, stomach issues, sleep problems, anxiety…and more adults with high blood pressure, heart disease, autoimmune conditions, and burnout. This isn’t weakness.This isn’t “all in your head.” This is what happens when the nervous system never learned it was safe. The good news?The brain and body can relearn safety. Awareness is the first step.Regulation is the next.Healing is possible. ACEs are lived, not learned — and healing has to meet people where life actually happened.