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Why do I feel like a loser?
Lately, I feel like my sun is fading. I can feel that inner love for life and happiness slowly slipping away. Schools in my country are practically closed now, and I haven’t been to school for a week. I haven’t talked to or hung out with anyone in a long time. I can easily say that my social circle at school has completely fallen apart. For the past two months, my friends have been treating me like a stranger. There is no one I can talk to on social media, either. I spend my days just playing video games, doing calisthenics, and studying. I think I am suffering from a severe lack of human connection, but I just don’t know how to build those bonds again. Even getting a girlfriend feels like a distant dream now; I know all too well that I can't achieve it. For some reason, I feel so empty. Am I losing hope? I guess my entire summer vacation is going to be spent alone. Strangely enough, after a long time, I feel like a 'hollow'. It’s as if the excitement and hope inside me have died out. Why did it turn out like this? I did my best. Or, I suppose, I only thought I did. Maybe if I finish Dark Souls one more time, I might feel better.
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@Karl Friston Some people had told me that it would take me months or even years to beat the game. I had even reached a breaking point where I almost gave up. It wasn't something under my control, and I thought I would just continue once I got a new system. However, when I thought about the fact that I would be giving up, I changed my mind. It took me two days to beat the Dancer, one day to beat Lorian and Lothric, and three days to beat the Soul of Cinder. When I entered the Ringed City DLC, the fps I got was around 5. I’m not lying, and I’m not joking. That’s why I dropped the DLC before it turned into a nightmare for me, and I just kept going with the main game. Lately, I don't download pirated games onto my new system; instead, I play the games I purchased a few years ago. I have a PS3, so I turn it on every now and then to play Dark Souls 1 and Dark Souls 2."
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@Karl Friston 😉
Do I need someone?
Recently, a lot has changed in my life. I’m no longer someone who feels constantly tired or sad. I’ve become more aggressive and more obsessed with my goals. I rebuilt my social circle and started getting closer to the future I want. What pushed me this hard — and what separated me from many of my friends — was lust. Guys, use lust, don’t waste it. Lust is an incredibly powerful source of energy. If you can direct it properly, it can help you a lot while chasing your goals. Also, during this journey, you don’t necessarily need to talk to the opposite sex. I’m a guy, and I can live just fine without talking to girls. I’m still in high school, so do you think not having a girlfriend is a problem? I know very little about relationships, almost nothing honestly. I’d appreciate it if you could share your thoughts or advice on this. Take care, everyone.
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@Koen Kwisthout I know that this is something that requires patience, so I'm not rushing into getting a girlfriend at all. Sometimes I wonder, “Would it be better if I hurried up?” but I know that rushing won't bring the right person into my life. So, I'll keep waiting and stay patient.
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@Linus van Woudenberg Thank you for your comment and compliments, brother. Because I was mocked by a girl I liked last year, I always approached the topic of relationships without much confidence or knowledge. This year, I can finally see girls as attractive and talk to them normally. Even though I don’t currently have a crush on anyone, like you said, I’m trying to become the best man I can be. Even if I’m socially weaker compared to my peers, I’m actually a very sincere and warm-hearted person. I do calisthenics five days a week and go to basketball training three days a week. I stay away from alcohol and cigarettes. Unlike many of my peers, I don’t see sexual relationships as a fantasy, but simply as a normal part of life. Because of this, I feel different from most people my age. Long story short, I’m really trying, and like you said, I’m trying to build a beautiful garden. Hearing things like “I’m proud of you” from others genuinely motivates me even more. I hope life is treating you well, brother. I really liked what you wrote. Stay safe, and don’t go Hollow. 💛
I Must Face Myself
Hello. I don't post here often, nor do I know much about this community, to be honest. I watched the Souls Improvement videos weeks ago when I needed them most. I wish I could say the advice from those videos was something I implemented long term, but I mostly used it as motivation to do better. That was still good at the time, but now motivation isn't enough. It's a long story, so I'll keep it short. About a month ago, I was what you all call "Hollow" (I haven't played a Souls game). I didn't feel like I could keep pushing forward. But I managed, and I did well. I even replaced all my bad habits with new, productive, healthy ones. Games were replaced with the gym, overspending was replaced with financial management, overeating was replaced with proper calorie management, and procrastination was replaced with working toward my goals and passions. But slowly, I've been falling back into my old self. The thing that made me want to go Hollow in the first place was still affecting me. Each day, I slipped further back into old distractions to the point I'm at the worst place I've ever been... I can't stay this way though. Obviously. And especially not next month. This month will be extremely strenuous because of something I'm preparing for on July 1st. So, I have to face myself now. I don't have a choice. As I said earlier, I don't know much about this community, but I'll be trying to learn more. It seems like many of you do habit tracking in a gamified way. It seems fun. I'll be joining in, and I look forward to improving alongside you all. I apologize for the yapping. Thank you to whoever reads this. Any advice is welcome. Have a great day. Don't you dare go Hollow. Or, as a Code Vein player would say... don't you dare go frenzy (CV is the only Souls-like Ive played).
1 like • May 31
Look, brother. I think I can see the problem here. You've built motivation, but you haven't built discipline—or if you did, it didn't last very long. Building discipline isn't easy, especially when you're surrounded by distractions. The first thing you should do is remove the things that distract you. It could be TikTok, Instagram, or even lust itself. Even I used to call myself "the one who controls lust," but recently lust started controlling me instead. However, over the last two days, I've taken back control, and it looks like I'll be able to keep it that way for a long time. Long story short: falling is not the problem. The real problem is refusing to get back up after you fall. We've all been through this. Don't feel alone, and don't blame yourself for struggling. I would also recommend giving a Souls game a try as soon as you can. Seriously, it might help you more than you expect. Stay safe, and don't you dare go Hollow.
OFF
I've been feeling off lately. Getting constant headaches, barely getting any tasks done, only able to gym or work with no energy to socialize with friends. Am I super sad or......? I Feel like I'm moving in the lake of rot and slowly being rotated away without the mushroom armor to boost my resistance.
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There’s nothing wrong with feeling this way, brother. I’ve experienced this before myself, and some of my friends have gone through it too. This feeling actually comes from a sense of “lack of purpose.” Even when everything is going well, you can still feel tired and inadequate — we’ve all been there. First of all, take care of your health. Make sure you sleep enough every day, drink at least 3 liters of water, and get some sunlight. Try to stay away from thoughts that drain you mentally, and spend time having fun with your friends. If you still feel the same after doing these things, then set yourself a strict purpose. Things like “I will take this many steps today” or “I will spend this many hours trying to learn something today.” When you set small but firm goals for yourself, life starts to feel better. I hope you get better soon. Stay safe.
Hello
I don't think I've introduced myself yet. I just turned 33 and I don't have my life together the way I want. I have a job but I still live with my parents. I've never had a girlfriend, but I recently started seeing a girl. That's interesting. First time really being with a girl I don't know what to do and I already messed it up by being too overzealous to spend time with her. She went no contact with me for 3 months and messaged me to hang out after not seeing her for that long. I thought I'd never see her again. I talked to my therapist about it and he said I let my anxiety control me, like a self fulfilling prophecy, because I was anxious she might not have liked me anymore I pushed her away to not like me for a bit. But I'm back with her now. She went through a really bad relationship recently and she's not ready for a relationship right now, but she likes me and loves to kiss me. Other than that I was thinking of doing a security services program at a college and to move into doing security work.
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I’m happy for you, my friend. I hope your life turns out the way you want in the future—changing your life is in your hands. I completely understand your eagerness when it comes to relationships. Personally, I’m still in high school and in two years I’ll have to take an exam for university. To be honest, I’ve never had a girlfriend, and I don’t see that as a problem. I guess it’s because I’m not mature enough yet. I wish you both lots of happiness.
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