Is letting go hard? Only if you believe it is. Who are you without that belief? Let it go! ☮️❤️ https://www.youtube.com/shorts/8nCIboXyz2w

This keeps showing up in my feed lately, maybe yours too? Today there is an "Identity Reset event" with lots of well-known speakers, and Aaron himself has been talking about identity quite a bit over the years. To be honest, at first I didn't really get why identity was such a big deal and what it actually meant. But I ended up being almost forced to explore it, because nothing else was working "enough" and I realized it was one of my biggest blind spots and was deeply it was affecting "healing". So I just wanted to share a few insights, in case they help someone else too🤍 🟣𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐬𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐬 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐟𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬, 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐚 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐟𝐭... 𝐲𝐞𝐭 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐧𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠? ​ It's usually not because we "didn't get it." And while part of it can absolutely be the nervous system taking time to readjust, that's usually not the whole story. After years of exploring healing, I've noticed three things that are often overlooked. ​ ​ 🟡 𝟏. 𝐖𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐟𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐲. ​ Many times, we uncover beliefs about money, relationships, health, self-worth, and so on. But we never uncover the hidden "I am..." statement that's quietly affecting every area of our lives. The one that has become our very foundation, even though we may be completely blind to it. So the core remains untouched, and the same patterns eventually return. ​ ​ 🟡 𝟐. 𝐖𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐞 𝐩𝐢𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐞 𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐯𝐢𝐯𝐚𝐥 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐢𝐧. ​ One core identity doesn't create just one belief or one behavior. It creates an entire chain of wounds, emotions, beliefs, coping mechanisms, and survival strategies that all reinforce one another. If you only change one part of the chain, the rest of it can quietly pull you back into similar patterns, even though you genuinely felt like you had changed. ​ ​ 🟡 𝟑. 𝐖𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠. ​ Insight is powerful, but understanding alone usually isn't enough to release what is encoded in the nervous system. If the body is still carrying unfinished survival responses, we can end up spending a long time learning, changing beliefs, and repeating meditations while continuing to experience the same emotional patterns and feeling "when I'm gonna change?".

Cute idea. Unfortunately... your brain didn't get the memo. 😅 The harder you try to not think about something... Your brain goes: "Wait... this must be IMPORTANT! Let's think about it every 12 seconds." Why? Because your brain is built to notice potential threats before it notices sunsets, puppies, or your favorite coffee. It thinks it's keeping you alive. Even when it's just replaying that awkward conversation from three years ago. Here's the twist... 🌑 Darkness isn't something you remove. It's simply what remains when there's no light. You don't fight darkness. You turn on a light. Negative thoughts work in a surprisingly similar way. Stop trying to wrestle every negative thought to the ground. Instead...✨ Feed your mind something brighter. Read something inspiring. Spend time with people who make your nervous system exhale. Laugh until your stomach hurts. Go for a walk. Watch the sunset. Practice gratitude. Take a few conscious breaths. Collect small moments that remind your brain: "We're safe. Life isn't only danger." The goal isn't to eliminate every negative thought. The goal is to stop letting them be the only voice in the room. Your attention is like sunlight. Where you shine it... Life grows. 🌱

One of the hardest lessons in life is accepting that not everyone values the same things we do. Some people choose love. Others choose money. Some respect and protect others. Others sacrifice them for ambition, status, or personal gain. There are people who turn against those who once helped them. Who drift away from family. Who even lose sight of what their own children need most. We search for reasons. We replay conversations. We wonder, How could they? But peace rarely comes from understanding every choice another person makes. It comes from accepting that their choices belong to them. 💥Letting go doesn't mean you approve. It doesn't mean you excuse. It doesn't mean it didn't hurt. It simply means you stop carrying a burden that was never yours to carry.💥 People reveal who they are through what they repeatedly choose. Your task is not to make sense of every decision. Your task is to protect your own heart, honour your own values, and keep choosing love over resentment. Some questions may never have satisfying answers. Healing begins the moment you stop asking "Why?" and start saying, "I release what I cannot change." Because the greatest freedom is not understanding everyone. It's no longer needing to.

Hi Friends. I love my life - for the most part. And I just started my business again - after a couple of years of burnout and rest. I love it. But i don’t want to fight so hard. I want it to flow. And at the same time i do want to be successful and financially free. Any advice? Thank you