Moms, do you REALLY love yourself??
Moms, I have a difficult question for you. Do you love yourself? Really, truly love yourself? When you first see this, you might be thinking of course I do, silly. But now I'm going to challenge you. Go to a mirror and say I love you. What do you feel? Feel any icky feelings, twinges, pains, nausea, or anything else? If so, it means you don't love yourself as much as you think you do. I experience this in an unexpected way 2 weeks ago. During a class we were given an exercise to address self limiting beliefs and subconscious programming that might be holding us back. I couldn't think of anything, so decided I'd work on it later. The next morning I did something I NEVER do. During my work hours I responded to an Instagram notification and I typically don't do this during the day so I stay productive. When I clicked on Instagram a post showed up talking about unconditional love for your children and in that moment a thought struck me, and it was, "you love your kids more than you love yourself." In that moment I broke down crying because this was clearly something I needed to work on that my subconscious was making me aware of. I didn't think this was the case because of the emotional, trauma, and self growth work I've done over at the last 12 years, but especially the last 2. I've done so much work surrounding limiting beliefs, self worth and self love that I didn't think this was actually possible. And I KNOW I need to love myself just as much as I love my kids so I can show up and be the best version of me for them. So I reached into my toolbox and worked on the WHY behind that. And each day repeat that statement, "you love your kids more than you love yourself." I eventually got to the place where I didn't cry or even feel any of the negative, icky feelings. I actually felt GOOD when I said it. Then I said, "I love you," to myself in the mirror and felt amazing (that's never happened before). What makes me sad is that I see this everyday in my practice and out in the world. Moms that won't prioritize themselves because of those self limiting beliefs and subconscious programs.