Often when guys are getting started they will put undue importance on individual encounters. They will remember this one time they had possibly a slight spark for a moment with a chick from years ago, or think about that one time they said one word to a girl or almost did. They roll it around in their head endlessly. A clear sign of scarcity. When I speak to chicks, I literally forget them. The meeting and quick checks are simply something going on all the time. Even if I have a few messages with a girl if you're stopping someone cold in the street and inviting them to come into your life in some way, you have to appreciate that most people have other stuff going on. Other dick already. But they will be happy to take the contact for later if you make them feel a certain way. Just because you are ready and really want something to happen, even if you do everything 'right', doesn't really mean shit. Much is out of your control. The need for immediate results is the enemy of frame. I literally won't even save chicks numbers in my phone until after we have been on at least a few dates. It's often just not the right moment, but if you make a big impression, what tends to happen is when their situation changes, they go back over their possible options they feel they have and reach out. Ping. Is this pathway still open? If you are out there making new connections, being open and non-pushy and letting things play out with some patience often this kind of thing will happen. When the time is right for them they will simply check and see if the time is good. This is like the 'heyyy' text. It means, 'I'm free now, if you still want to hit me up' This is why also a lot of you don't realise that your level is fine. You are making good enough impressions, if you can get the numbers, make the contact, and then wait without blowing up, angry, frustrated or bitter ('You fucking bitch, you held me on backup while you rode other dick, now you want me?') Got to let that go, it's simply how the animal works.

The good times are just getting started! Big shout out to @Bojan Kitanovic Bo is really the epitome of inner transformation and is reshaping his life in awesome ways. Such a night and day change that it is truly inspiring. A lot of guys here would benefit from his journey and reflections. I do encourage the new brothers in particular who are feeling like this stuff is just impossible to overcome to reach out and have a virtual coffee together. Been thinking what perks and rewards I can drop for you guys. Bo is giving me the occasion to finally start the practice of reward drops. As you may have noticed I am obsessively updating and improving all the workflows behind the services. (You guys can't imagine the level of obsessive detail that goes into this stuff 😂) Recently I added two of the highest performance rated Tinder photos (according to the data science of it all) into my expanding source file archive for the Dating Profile Cheat Code (you can access it via the Classroom). I have been refining them and I ran the pipeline over them for you Bo. Enjoy adding them to your arsenal of digital game assets. Drop a like for brother Bo!

Most of what exists in this space is information. Theory. Strategy. But the problem isn't that these men don't know what to do. They can tell you exactly what's wrong with them in real time, at least the symptoms and ways in which they are falling short, and yet still go run the same pattern. Information doesn't touch the part of the system that's actually broken. So I went a different direction using a unique set of skills that have never been applied in this way to this problem before. I've spent the last few months building something that uses related psychological techniques to the ones I share — Ericksonian hypnosis, Pavlovian anchoring, subliminal state activation, psychic driving — applied directly, at depth, to burn nice guy conditioning out at the root. Not explain it. Not reframe it. Remove it. The inspiration was MKUltra. The CIA spent decades developing methods to reprogram ordinary men at the level of instinct — below memory, below choice, below conscious resistance. I once saw an elite mentalist use those methods to recreate hypnotic assasins. I knew the techniques worked. All I was missing was the time and interest to apply it to this particular problem. I've taken that same methodology and pointed it at the one thing that's actually stopping nice guys: their state. Four states. Each one anchors it to a physical trigger. The minimum viable stack to show up as the man you already know you could be. Think of The Drowning Man as a map/direct pointing. This operates directly on the nervous system. Raw state change. No need to learn anything. I put A LOT into this one and it packs an absolute gut punch that will rewire you. I genuinely think it's a novel approach to a problem this space has been circling for years and the start of taking this work to the next level. Please let me know what you think below, brothers.

The father wound doesn't look like grief. It looks like you learned how to be a man from a woman — and had no idea that was happening. If everyone around you agreed to live in the blue pill fantasy, what hope did you have? The Machiavellian reality of how women operate — the weaponised needs, the barn-sized emotional triggers, the conditioning of men into willing servitude and self-sacrifice — that was the water you swam in. So you learned to perform for approval. You became a good boy. A nice guy. That was the only map you had. The problem isn't that you're weak. The problem is you navigated with a map that was never designed to get you where you needed to go. The father wound shows up in the audit — specifically in the Attachment and Validation subscales. Q5, Q6, Q10. The signal-checking. The permission-seeking. The monitoring of her reaction before you decide how you feel. The cycle completes when you stop being the son. The man you've been waiting for was always you. Where did you first notice you were performing? Not the big moment — the small one. The room, the person, the adjustment you made before you even knew you were making it.

Working with men is my third career. First I was a scientist. Then a builder. Now this. Each one taught me the same thing from a different angle: progress isn't blocked by lack of effort. It's blocked by working on the wrong variable. Here's the formula I use with every man I work with. One. Know clearly what direction change needs to move in. Not a fantasy. A vector. Two. Understand with absolute clarity where you actually are today. No sugar coating. No fatalism. Most men can't walk that line alone — they drift into one or the other without noticing. Three. Identify and solve the single most critical bottleneck to your immediate progress. Not all the bottlenecks. The one that's load-bearing right now. The one everything else is stacked behind. This is not a one-hit kill. It's a stack-trace. You work the deepest blocking error first, clear it, and the next one surfaces. You work that one. The system starts moving. What kills this process every time is distraction. Money, Energy, Attention, Time — spent on things that feel like progress but aren't. They don't just waste resources. They actively comfort you while you stay exactly where you are. The comfort is the trap. You have to eat the broken glass. You have to stare directly into the abyss of what's actually true about where you are. Most men won't. That's why most men don't move. -- Tell me this: what's the thing you already know is YOUR current bottleneck — the one you've been avoiding rather than running through? ---