Over time I’ve noticed something simple but important. Most people think the hardest part is the anxiety, the burnout, or the feeling of being stuck. it isn’t. The hardest part is not recognising the pattern early and not knowing what the hell is going on. So you keep reacting to the feeling instead and thats where the loop comes in and you struggle. Once you can see the pattern clearly, the fear drops but not because life is fixed or all the pain went away, it's because you’re no longer confused about what’s happening. That distinction changed everything for me.

Step 1 – Pattern Awareness Drill Next time you feel yourself stepping into “fixer” mode: 1. Notice what’s happening in your body (shoulders up, chest tight, stomach flutter). 2. Name it: “This is my survival role switching on.” Step 2 – Grounding Reset Practice 3 slow diaphragmatic breaths - One hand on your chest, one on your belly. - Inhale through the nose, belly expands. - Exhale slowly through the mouth, belly falls. Step 3 – Identity Shift Statement Choose one: - “I can still be safe without fixing.” - “I’m allowed to care for myself first.” Step 4 – Micro-Boundary Rehearsal Role-play saying: “That’s tough, I trust you to handle it.” Practice until it feels less like rejection and more like respect. The goal: train your body to tolerate the 'discomfort' of not fixing. When the nervous system learns that nothing bad happens… the old role loses its grip.

Purpose: Let your nervous system switch out of “scan mode” so calm feels normal again. 1. Sit with back supported. 2. Choose a single anchor point (object, sound, sensation). 3. Keep eyes soft, no scanning. 4. Every time your gaze wants to wander, gently bring it back. 5. Keep attention there for 5 minutes. This retrains your orienting reflex away from threat and into safety.

This isn’t a self-help group. It's not therapy. And it’s not motivation. This is the locker room. People end up here because something in their life doesn’t feel right anymore, and they’re sick of pretending it’s fine. That might be anxiety. Burnout. Feeling stuck. Feeling behind. Or just the sense that life has become heavier than it should be. You don’t need to be fixed. You don’t come here for advice. And you don’t come here for answers. You come here to speak honestly about what’s going on without being judged, analysed, or corrected. If you’re struggling, that's human, it just means something needs attention. This is a place to notice patterns, not panic about them. To be seen, not sorted out. Say what’s real. Listen without fixing. That’s how this works.

1. Respect Above All 🤝Treat every member with dignity. No insults, slurs, or personal attacks, in wrestling debates or personal stories 2.No Hate, No Politics 🚫This is a safe space. Racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, or political fights have no place here. 3. Support, Don’t Diagnose 🧠Share your story, not your prescriptions. Encourage and listen, but leave medical advice to professionals. 4. Keep It Real, Keep It Kind 💬Healthy debate about wrestling is welcome, but don’t let it get toxic. Disagree without disrespect. 5. Privacy Matters 🔐What’s shared in The Locker Room stays here. Don’t post screenshots or share private details outside the group. 6. No Spam, No Self-Promo 📢This isn’t a billboard. Only admins can post links to outside services or promotions. 7. Celebrate, Don’t Tear Down 🎉Win, loss, big step, or small, we lift each other up. Post as if your words will help someone fight their own battle.