I think I finally understand the Course's definition of forgiveness! 1. There is a circumstance, such as: a person said words. 2. I hear those words through my filters, my personality, my stories. 3. What I "hear" is projected onto the other person. 4. I call that reality. 5. I feel anger at their words as a result of the above filtering/projecting/stories. 6. I say it's their fault that I'm angry. 7. To forgive them, I have to recognize and own (take responsibility) that my "reality" is totally made by me, through my filters, projections, stories. 8. To forgive that person is a moot point. I am forgiving myself for creating something that is not real and then running with it. 9. Forgiving is actually letting go of all of that and getting back to seeing "A person said words." 10. The other person isn't really part of this work, except as a catalyst. 11. My forgiveness work could actually be called seeing clearly and letting it go. 12. I release my stories, my projections - and the feelings dissipate and I see that the other person is truly innocent. This was entirely a storm of my own making. 13. "Forgive" is a very triggering word in Christian culture! A lot of confusion is created by the Course's use of this word. Many other teachers have taught this same letting go process without using this very charged word. I think it's one of the weak aspects of ACIM and causes unnecessary confusion.