@Anne Busch failing has to be defined before it can be experienced. The definition of failing, it can be redefined and reframed any way you need it to be. Take this example: When you were a young mom, you would look forward to making your kids breakfast, and helping them get dressed. You might even say it was your purpose. Heaven forbid you make that an identity. When your kids grow up, you keep the identity of mom, but you redefine what it means to take care of them, and your role as a parent. You then think, now they should make breakfast themselves, and dress themselves, b/c now they need to learn to be independent. Another example, and my favorite: the cast analogy: (https://open.spotify.com/album/2HkazX20tAo9qw9DRNU8Xq <- the track I made about it). When you get injured you put on a cast, at first the cast protects, it takes care of you, it heals you. Then at some point the healing is complete, and now the cast that was once helpful, protective, useful, becomes: constraining, limiting, and disabling. This is how beliefs and definitions work: at one time, it is exactly what you need, and then one day "it no longer serves you", and you release it, you let it go, to redefine it. In your own power, you choose through your own inner wisdom, and inner truth (not external), what it is that you now need, and that is what adopt going forward. There is not a right and wrong. There is progressing, there is growth, there is expansion. If you are not growing, why? If you are not expanding, why? Those questions will help you move above the noise, and discover what is best for you, and how you want to fully and completely show up in life. In the end know this: when you take care of yourself, your light will shine, and it will empower those around you. Your kids will be inspired, and your husband will be proud and amazed. Do what is best for you, and everything will unfold to support you.