Hi - my general anxiety levels pretty high - wake up at 3 to 4am not just due to personal situation but work also a significant factor with things continuing to go south and another round of redundancies. Trying to find ways to fight the anxiety and read EMDR bilateral stimulation is good. Has anyone tried this, what did they use amd was it any help?

After everyone So I think I could get any lower than I am now all my situation any worse. I’m eight weeks in and it’s been a very up-and-down eight weeks. We’ve had some okay days we’ve had some good days. We’ve had some very bad days. However, this past week I have really struggled mentally and emotionally. Everything came to head on Thursday. I was at work, working from home and I just crumbled I didn’t want to be here anymore and so I phoned this Samaritans reached out to them broke down and explained. I have nothing so what’s the point of carrying on? I would never ever do that and take my because at the end of the day I lose too much but the main reason is I’m too weak and a coward to even do anything like that But I was broken I just didn’t wanna be here My wife came home that evening and we were talking normal. It was going okay and then it was time for me to leave the house. She said goodbye which I fully heard but I was going out into the Hall to get my bits and I was coming back stupidly I should’ve just said I’ll be back in a second or acknowledge that but I didn’t. She then thought I was ignoring her because whilst I was out in my hallway, she shouted again goodbye answer because I didn’t hear she then got those irate and said why am I ignoring her? And which of course I wasn’t intentionally. I then just broke did go back into my old ways. I used to have a bit of a temper problem. I guess I still do. My son was also around. I will never forgive myself for doing all of this in front of him. I lashed out kicking the wall kicking a stair gate and punching the door multiple times. I then just sank to the floor and broke down crying shaking saying I just want my wife. I just want my wife. I don’t know why this week has been so hard. I think the previous week I was away and didn’t see my wife for a week and then coming home to a real reality that I don’t wanna face and it’s just been harder and harder every day where it eventually finally got to me and I just absolutely as I said

Good afternoon all Well, yet another mixed weekend for me I had a really bad day on Thursday and struggled mentally and emotionally. I hardly got any sleep and I still don’t know how I got through Friday. But whilst I was struggling to sleep, I was thinking to myself I can’t keep doing this. I need to be better. I need to stop breaking and crumbling and saying the same things over and over again to her. So on Friday, there was from us there wasn’t any need and I got them with my Day forgot about everything as best as I could then knowing Saturday I had my children and I saw her and we were absolutely fine and I was as normal as I can be and I had on Saturday Come Sunday when I took the kids back home my plan was not to stay. It was to drop them off. Have a quick chat with her and be on my way however as soon as she knew that I wasn’t staying her mood flipped like a light switch and she went. Very short and with a tone to me now I’m not saying she wanted me to stay or anything like that later on she messaged me to say she was just having a bad day. But from all of that I ended up doing what I do best currently and breaking down yet again albeit no tears this time that’s saying the same things that I can be this man I can do that etc etc. But they’re not ultimately affected my mood once again and I felt that this time it was not instigated or anything that I had done, but I’m the one that now comes across and looks portrayed in a bad light She said I hadn’t done anything wrong and everything was fine this morning, Monday but once again we ended up getting onto the same subjects and she even said it was going so well but here we are again but then we both tried to shut it down and she said let’s stop now before we ruin it. But today my mental day has been absolutely all I’ve hardly done any work and I’ve broken many times in my Work toilet I’m just struggling so bad to keep it together when I’m deep down I feel that I know that my marriage is completely over and I don’t think no matter what she’ll ever give me the chance but yet she won’t tell me that it’s officially over because I feel that whilst in the current situation I’m still paying towards the house and it’s financially stable for her the kids me and everything is hunky-dory because as soon as says that there is no hope whatsoever she knows it’s going to be a lot more pain in terms of having to sell houses or sort mortgages out.

Hi guys, I've just heard some bad news. I won't bore you with the whole conversation that led up to it, but we ended up talking this morning. I'm going to a car show with her sister today, so I rang her and asked if she wanted to come along and bring the kids. She said she'd let me know and message me later, so I said okay, go get a shower and get ready. A little while later, she messaged me saying, "Hi, I need to talk to you. I don't know whether you want to do it in person or over FaceTime, but you're not going to like it." Instantly, I had an idea what it might be. I've had a gut feeling for a while that something may have happened. She told me she'd slept with someone. She slept with a guy called Brad, who is one of her neighbours. Our kids are the same age, and when me and Tasha were together, we'd all spend time together. When we first split up, I remember having doubts and anxiety about whether anything had happened between them or whether anything ever would. She literally laughed and told me there was nothing to worry about, that nothing would ever happen between her and Brad. But it did. I didn't say much. I just sat there and took it all in while she did most of the talking. She said she didn't really have to tell me, but she felt like she needed to before I found out from someone else. She said she regrets it and that there's nothing there between them. Apparently, her, Brad, and another friend who all live on the same street have now fallen out, and she wanted me to hear it from her first. The strange thing is, I didn't get angry. I just accepted it. Part of me feels like I deserve it because of how I treated her and the mistakes I made in our relationship. Honestly, I'm not even mad. I still forgive her. I still care about her. And as crazy as it probably sounds, I still want to fix things. I simply thanked her for telling me, for being honest with me, and then I left. I don't really know what else to say.

My wife and I have been together for 13 years and married for 10 years this month. Recently, we went on a family holiday to Spain. Everything seemed great, and we had a really good time together as a family. However, on the day we returned home, she told me she wanted to talk. During that conversation, she explained that she had been unhappy for around a year and felt that she wanted us to separate. I didn't handle the news well. I lost my temper, reacted badly, packed my bags, and left. After I had calmed down, I tried to talk things through with her, but she has refused to discuss it further. She told me that my reaction to her opening up about her feelings was unacceptable and that she doesn't think she can forgive me for it. We've now been separated for six weeks and have had very little contact. I've been trying to focus on doing what's best for myself and our children, but I'm struggling with feelings of loneliness, rejection, and worthlessness. Yesterday, she reached out, and we had the first normal conversation we've had since the separation. I was hoping she might contact me again today, but I haven't heard anything. At the moment, I'm choosing not to initiate contact because I want to give her space and keep any communication low-pressure. Do you think this is the right approach?