Haha ever feel like every time you step out, people are just... against you? Like the whole world woke up and chose to f*ck with you for no reason? 😂 Yeah… used to happen to me EVERY. FKN. TIME. But here’s what I realized—it wasn’t them. It was me. And it might be you too. You’re Wearing Something That’s Screwing You Over No, not your outfit lol. It's your mindset. Without even realizing it, you’ve been walking around with lenses of fear, anger, or guilt... and that sh*t is dictating everything. And I know what you’re thinking: “What does that have to do with people treating me weird?” I used to ask the same thing. Your Brain is Playing Tricks on You (And You Don’t Even Know It) Don't want to get too ScIeNcY here... BUT, your brain has something called the RAS (Reticular Activating System). Basically, it’s like a filter—it looks for proof of whatever you already believe. Think of it like this: 🔹 Ever buy a new car, and suddenly you start seeing that exact model EVERYWHERE? 🔹 Or hear a song once, and now it’s in every store, every TikTok, every Uber ride? That’s your RAS in action... it highlights whatever is already in your mind. And if you’ve been walking around thinking, “People don’t like me” or “Everyone’s against me,” guess what? Your brain is gonna look for proof of that everywhere. Even if someone smiles at you, your RAS will twist it into: "Oh, they’re probably laughing at me." "They think I’m weird." "They’re judging me." And just like that, you turn a harmless moment into a confirmation that the world is against you. Congrats. You just got played by your own brain. Stop Playing the Wrong Game For years, I was unknowingly operating in ME vs. THEM mode. And because of that, my RAS kept showing me reasons to believe it. But then I flipped it. What if—instead of competition, I started seeing collaboration? What if I walked into a room and thought, “Everyone here is on my side” instead of “Everyone here is judging me”? What if I trained my brain to look for proof that people actually liked me instead of assuming the worst?

Ever feel like no matter how much you try to “stay positive,” nothing really changes? Like you’re repeating affirmations, Forcing gratitude, And telling yourself everything’s fine when deep down, it’s not? That’s because positive thinking doesn’t work when you’re using it to ESCAPE reality. If you feel insecure, afraid of judgment, or stuck in self-doubt, forcing positivity won’t fix it. In fact, it does the opposite—it pushes those feelings deeper. And whatever you resist… persists. It’s like stuffing a messy room into a closet before guests arrive. At first, it looks clean. But the mess hasn’t disappeared—it’s just hidden. And the more you shove inside, the harder it becomes to close the door. Eventually, it bursts open, spilling everything out at once. That’s exactly what happens when you suppress your real emotions. You pretend they’re not there, but they show up anyway—through overthinking, hesitation, anxiety, or even feeling drained after every social interaction. So what should you do instead? Stop trying to be “more positive” and start being more honest. 1) Acknowledge what you’re feeling instead of covering it up. If you’re feeling insecure, admit it. If you’re afraid, sit with that fear. There’s no weakness in it. The only weakness is pretending it’s not there. 2) Ask yourself where it’s coming from. What are you actually afraid of? What story are you telling yourself about why you’re not good enough? Get to the root of it. 3) Let yourself feel it WITHOUT judgment. Most people avoid emotions because they think feeling them means something is wrong with them. It doesn’t. Emotions are temporary. When you stop resisting, they lose their grip on you. Real confidence isn’t built by forcing positivity. It’s built by knowing that no emotion—no fear, no doubt, no insecurity—has power over you unless you let it. You don’t need to fake positivity. You just need to stop running.

Be honest with yourself for a second… You thought by now, socializing would feel natural. That you’d finally be confident, effortless, and just know what to say. But instead? You still overthink. You still feel out of place. You still replay conversations in your head, cringing at every awkward moment. And the worst part? It feels like you’re the only one still struggling. (But you’re not… and here’s why.) You ever tell yourself you need a drink before going out just to “loosen up”? Or that you have to do a few social challenges before talking to people? Or that you just need momentum before you can actually feel normal in conversations? Yeah… that’s not confidence. That’s a crutch. And the worst part? Every time you do it, you’re reinforcing the belief that you’re not enough on your own. How You’re Tricking Yourself (Without even REALIZING It) I used to be the same way. I’d be like, “Okay, I just need to say hi to three people first, then I’ll feel normal.” Or “Lemme just take a shot first, and THEN my real personality will come out.” Bro. What kind of logic is that? Imagine if you had to “warm up” just to be yourself. Or needed “liquid courage” just to act like… well, YOU. If your confidence only shows up after a drink or a ritual, is it even real? The Consequences You Don’t See Here’s where it gets scary. One day, you’re gonna show up to a party, a date, or a big opportunity where your “crutches” aren’t available. - No alcohol to numb the nerves. - No warm-up conversations to build momentum. - No easy outs. And you’re gonna freeze like a Windows XP computer. Because deep down, you never actually built real confidence—you just borrowed it. So what happens? You avoid. You hesitate. You tell yourself, “I’m just not in the right mood today”—when in reality, you’ve been avoiding the real work all along. And worst of all? You’re still stuck in the same cycle years later. The Hard Truth (That Nobody Talks About) Listen, I’m not saying to go full monk mode and never have a drink or pump yourself up before socializing.

For years, I tried to fix how I felt by pushing harder. I thought if I became more social, more confident, more impressive—then I’d finally feel connected. But no matter what I did, something always felt off. I could be surrounded by people, yet still feel like I was on the outside looking in. I could have a conversation, but deep down, I was still second-guessing myself. And at night, I’d lie in bed wondering—why do I still feel this way? The more I focused on trying to appear confident and perfect, the more disconnected I felt. This constant push to perform, to be "on" all the time, even outside social settings, was draining. I found myself overthinking everything. Even for my biz, I’d stay up late, stressing over whether I was doing enough to meet expectations, fearing that if I didn’t keep pushing, I’d fall behind. I’d second-guess every message, every decision, wondering if I was making the right moves—or if I was just pretending to have it all figured out. Even in the quiet moments, I’d feel anxiety creep in, questioning if my true self was good enough. That’s when I realized something. The reason I wasn’t feeling that deep connection I wanted? It wasn’t because I wasn’t doing enough.It was because I was constantly rejecting myself. I was so focused on being someone people would “like”, that I never let myself actually BE myself. That’s why I always felt distant, even in social situations. That’s why I was always exhausted after trying to be “on” all the time. And that’s why nothing ever felt real. The real issue wasn’t that I needed to try harder. It was that I needed to accept myself first. What Happens When You Stop Fighting Yourself Most people think acceptance means settling. That if they accept who they are right now, they’ll stop improving. But the opposite happens. When you stop resisting yourself, you stop draining your energy on self-doubt. When you stop forcing conversations, they start flowing naturally. When you stop trying to prove yourself, people feel more drawn to you.