Sisters. In my Masjid this has become a large topic even on social media platforms. Alot of the brothers are coming out and stating that modern muslim women only think about our own rights and we tend to neglect the mens rights. I disagree with that statement, can this be a discussion or maybe a suggested podcast topic? In my experiences brothers have used rights to weaponize and completely ignore womans rights as both a women and a wife in islam. All comments, opinions, references, etc. are welcomed and helpful. Inshallah!

Asalamalaykum sisters, My name is Kulsum, and I’m based in the States. I’m in my early 30s, and most of my friends are around the same age. We’re all doing well in different aspects of life—except when it comes to marriage (though, of course, everything is by Allah’s will). Lately, I’ve been trying to understand and process something that’s been on my mind. Some of my friends have started discussing the idea of freezing our eggs before marriage, given the uncertainty around finding the right person and the risk of declining fertility as we age. When I mentioned this to my mom and sister, they said it shows a lack of trust in Allah and that I’m being negative about the future. I’m wondering—does considering egg freezing really mean I don’t trust Allah, or am I just overthinking things?

Sisters during an EID festival where I live, a brother approached me and stated he was seeking marriage. We exchanged contact information, we met at the masjid the next day and he took me to dinner after to discuss a Wali, intentions, etc. Things took an EXTREME turn as I thought it was going well it became terrible. We met up again for tacos, to discuss him meeting my father (wali), a timeline, etc. He had me pay for the meal, stated that leaders deserve to get there meals paid for and then stated that he felt me and him weren't compatible. He presented me with a list and told me all my rights are going to be taken away and said that he is in charge. The list consisted of things such as a curfew, how he wanted me to cover, etc. a Wali wasn't even involved at this point. He then texted me round 12am and asked to come to my house and dm'ed me on instagram asking if I wanted to get "folded like a pretzel." PLEASE HELP! This is the continuous experiences I am having with brothers where I am meeting in places surrounded by and related to religion (EID festival, masjid fundraiser, masjid volunteering) and every time they seem to sneak sex in the equation. I really feel like giving up. I feel I have gone about things properly, set boundaries, etc. but they continue to test boundaries.

He has the job. The deen. The stability. But one sister said, “I felt uneasy, even though everything looked perfect.” Compatibility isn’t just a checklist. It’s emotional safety, shared vision, and mutual respect. Sometimes istikhara protects you from what looks good but isn’t good for you. Have you ever walked away from something that seemed “perfect”?

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