(I may start adding brackets for readers as personal notes to add depth to my experience piecing this together. Where I had my own 'Ah-ha!' moments.) Rule 1: Power Scales With Safety Emotional magic does not respond to willpower. (I always wanted to be max-willpower. Admitting this felt like a massive weight of armour off. It's forcing inauthentic emotions to try overpower the genuine nervous-system experience I was told was weak to feel anything other than strong.) It responds to perceived safety. Not objective safety. Nervous-system safety. If the system believes there is threat, all magic reroutes to survival. (It's incredible that we can be physically safe, but emotionally/mentally under siege and expressing the same stress responses.) That is not dysfunction. That is design. What Safety Actually Means Safety is not comfort. It is the absence of imminent harm. A system can feel unsafe even when life looks stable. Safety answers these unconscious questions: - Am I allowed to exist right now? - Will expression cost me belonging? - If I stop bracing, will something bad happen? If the answer is “I don’t know,” power throttles down. (Not knowing is one person's hell, or another's adventure, dependent on self-trust and stress tolerance.) How to Tell If You Are Chronically Unsafe Chronic unsafety does not feel dramatic. It feels like: - Constant low tension. - Difficulty resting even when tired. - Overthinking simple decisions. - Humor used as armor. - Productivity without satisfaction. - Emotions that feel “too much” or “too pointless.” This is not a personality. It is a system that has forgotten how to exist without tension. Regardless of whether it is perceived, self-assumed, or reaffirmed externally. (Majorly guilty of this.) Why Magic Fails Under Unsafety When unsafe, the system: - Narrows attention - Prioritizes prediction over presence - Trades curiosity for control - Locks interpretation into worst-case framing This makes emotional work feel:

What does it mean to truly live with purpose? To choose courage over comfort, authenticity over approval, and service over self? In this episode, I sit down with @Dan 'Remmy' Stourac — author, speaker, and cancer survivor — for a deeply inspiring conversation about what it means to live an intentional, value-driven life. Remmy shares his powerful story of surviving childhood cancer, navigating survivor’s guilt, and transforming that pain into purpose. From his time as a counselor at a kids’ cancer camp to living out his mission of service and authenticity, Remmy’s life is a blueprint for courage, faith, and conscious evolution. We explore: ✨ Finding meaning through adversity ✨ Survivor’s guilt and the call to live “twice as courageous” ✨ Spirituality beyond religion ✨ Building authentic relationships rooted in honesty and value ✨ Redefining success and living in alignment with your true purpose This is a conversation about healing, growth, and the beauty of living your truth — no matter where your journey began. 🎧 Watch or listen now on YouTube: https://youtu.be/1YeErwO_CtE?si=wjcW8nM9SjrsyAb1

It's been a bit, friends! I've been reacclimating to a drastically different lifestyle in NZ. From freedom to 50-60hr workweeks and little left in the tank to give in the downtime. Seasons change, but my ambitions don't! I aspire to make emotional intelligence more accessible so we can have more aware, intentional, and purposeful lives. I'm trying to mould all my interests of human wellbeing in a spiritual, scientific, experiential and energetic sense into one tangible, universal thread. I present to you: Emotions as a Magic System! The epic @Brendan OCallaghan has begun my cover art behind the scenes. the first drafts have been epic, yet it may evolve in a few playful ways. But he just took it upon himself behind the scenes and surprised me with it on his own terms, so I'm supremely grateful that to have a cover in motion helps the concept feel it has a soul. I'm going to post the entire book piece by piece so we can turn it into a living conversation and stack it all in a new course. It will be FREE here, but eventually published and sold elsewhere. (Our little secret and thanks for being a part of the community. 😎🫶 First and foremost: I'm torn between the Titles: And without knowing more, what impressions do you assume you'd get based off of those title options?

Wanting to show up true to my word and get over performance self-judgement , round 2. More to come! You folks working on anything creative you could share???:)

I used to think I had to reject my past to move forward. I eventually realized that she was my greatest protector. I have so much gratitude for the woman I was. She did her best with what she knew. Now, I have reached a point where I had to admit she was no longer who I was becoming. I had to let her go. Growth isn’t about leaving your old self behind; it’s about making room for the one who has arrived. You aren't turning your back on your history, you are simply honoring the next layer of your truth. You don’t have to abandon the version of you that you were to make room for the version of you that you are. Who do you feel yourself becoming in this season? 💖