💛 When Love and Loss Get Complicated
First of all, huge thank you to @Kayla Amadon for sharing such a vulnerable part of her resent loss! Sometimes grief hits in layers. You lose the person you love… and then, somehow, you lose your connection to their world too. Maybe their family pulled away. Maybe you weren’t given the chance for closure or even to hold something sacred like their ashes. It’s heartbreak on top of heartbreak — and it’s okay to admit that hurts. If this is where you find yourself right now, please know — you’re not broken and you’re not doing it wrong. Grief doesn’t follow neat steps or timelines. It’s love with nowhere to go, still reaching for a place to land. Here are a few gentle practices that might help you start finding your footing again: 🌿 Create your own sacred space — light a candle, place a photo, keep a stone or something that reminds you of your person. Whisper their name. Talk to them. Love doesn’t need permission. 💧 Give your feelings a voice — write the letter you’ll never send, scream into a pillow, scribble with crayons, cry in the shower (this is my personal favorite), dance it out. Let that energy move — it’s how healing begins. 🪶 Look for little signs of connection — a song that plays at just the right time, a bird that lingers, a random feather, or a beautiful sunset (or sunrise if you are an early riser). Sometimes those moments are the message. ✍️ Jot down a few lines each day: - “Today I miss…” - “What I wish I could say…” - “What I need most right now…” I talk about Glow Writing on the podcast this week. It’s a very powerful exercise! Check it out on Catch Some SoulShine (YT)! 🌸 Ground yourself in softness — hand on heart, deep breaths, tea in your favorite mug, a walk outside, a few minutes of quiet. Let your body know it’s safe to rest here for a bit. You may not be ready for a meditation practice, but it is a very important key to radical self-love. Even when others have closed doors, your love still lives on — in your art, in your memories, in your heartbeat. You get to decide how to honor that love now.