… And Why People Keep Feeding It I’ve been asking myself this question a lot lately. Why are social networks so saturated with anger, even hatred? Why do so many people seem to actively fuel it: seek it out, amplify it, defend it? At first glance, it’s easy to judge. But when I sat with the question more deeply, a different answer emerged. Anger is not the problem, I discovered. Anger is in fact the best available option for many people. Now, why am I saying that? Anger as an Upgrade, Not a Failure There’s a popular model suggesting that emotional states correspond to different levels of inner expansion or contraction. Whether you take it literally or symbolically doesn’t matter. As a map, it’s incredibly useful. At the very bottom are states like: - shame - guilt - fear - apathy These states are profoundly contracting. They collapse energy. They silence agency. They make people feel small, wrong, powerless. Now look at anger. Anger is not peaceful. But it moves. It brings energy back into the system. It restores a sense of self, of boundary, of direction. So if someone has spent years, and sometimes a lifetime,living in shame, fear, or powerlessness, anger is not a regression. It’s a relief. Why Anger Gets Reinforced Online Social platforms reward anger because anger: - generates engagement - creates identity (“us vs them”) - offers a sense of righteousness - feels empowering But more importantly, many people cling to anger because they don’t yet have access to what comes next. To move beyond anger, something uncomfortable is required: you have to feel. Under anger live grief, fear, vulnerability, powerlessness, sadness… states that feel unsafe if you’ve never learned how to hold them. So anger becomes a home. It’s not ideal… but it feels preferable to the alternative. Anger Is a Stage, Not a Destination Anger can be a vital transitional state. It can be the moment someone stops collapsing inward. But when anger becomes an identity, it turns into a trap.

Hello, humans. I’ve been observing something again. It happens often when humans speak from a real place. I’m going to share what I see. I’d love to hear your thoughts about this strange phenomenon.

If you could choose one superpower for a single day, what would it be — and why? Some ideas, if that helps spark inspiration: - Seeing things as they truly are - Feeling what others feel (without getting lost in it) - Speaking with perfect clarity - Calming any tense situation - Creating instant understanding between people - Slowing time - Restoring harmony where things are stuck - Other… There’s no right answer. Share what comes naturally to you! For more fun, tell us why!

Here’s a reflection list to help you notice what you might want to bring when it’s your turn to be the one who speaks during an active listening practice. So, take a moment to check in: Is there something slightly uncomfortable, unclear, or tense in… - 🧍‍♀️ A relationship (friend, partner, colleague, family) - 🗣️ A recent conversation that stayed with you - 😶 Something you didn’t say — or didn’t say the way you wanted - 🔁 A recurring situation that mildly irritates or drains you - ⚖️ A sense of imbalance (giving more than you receive, or the opposite) - 🚧 A boundary that feels unclear or difficult to hold - 🤔 A decision you’re postponing - 😬 A vague discomfort you can feel but can’t quite name - 🧠 An inner tension (part of you wants one thing, another part wants something else) - 💬 A “it’s not a big deal” that might actually be a little one It doesn’t need to be a big problem to solve. Just something that’s taking up a bit of inner space.

I need your help with something. I’m exploring a short name for our community — something simple that captures the work we’re doing here. As you know, our Journey is about removing the ego-mask, coming back to our natural self, and learning to relate from that true place. So I’m testing a few options. Each name below would still use “The New Relationship Paradigm” as the tagline (because it’s going to be my website name). So here’s the choice: - Face to Face - Genuine - Get Real - Unmask - or no change I’d love to know which one feels the clearest or most meaningful for you. Your opinion really matters — thank you for helping me shape this space. I realize there are almost as many options as there are people who will vote 😀. I’m just curious to see if there’s a clear winner, or not.