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Jan 27 • Thoughts and questions
Why Is There So Much Anger Online?…
… And Why People Keep Feeding It
I’ve been asking myself this question a lot lately.
Why are social networks so saturated with anger, even hatred?
Why do so many people seem to actively fuel it: seek it out, amplify it, defend it?
At first glance, it’s easy to judge.
But when I sat with the question more deeply, a different answer emerged.
Anger is not the problem, I discovered.
Anger is in fact the best available option for many people.
Now, why am I saying that?
Anger as an Upgrade, Not a Failure
There’s a popular model suggesting that emotional states correspond to different levels of inner expansion or contraction. Whether you take it literally or symbolically doesn’t matter. As a map, it’s incredibly useful.
At the very bottom are states like:
- shame
- guilt
- fear
- apathy
These states are profoundly contracting.
They collapse energy. They silence agency.
They make people feel small, wrong, powerless.
Now look at anger.
Anger is not peaceful. But it moves.
It brings energy back into the system.
It restores a sense of self, of boundary, of direction.
So if someone has spent years, and sometimes a lifetime,living in shame, fear, or powerlessness, anger is not a regression.
It’s a relief.
Why Anger Gets Reinforced Online
Social platforms reward anger because anger:
- generates engagement
- creates identity (“us vs them”)
- offers a sense of righteousness
- feels empowering
But more importantly, many people cling to anger because they don’t yet have access to what comes next.
To move beyond anger, something uncomfortable is required: you have to feel.
Under anger live grief, fear, vulnerability, powerlessness, sadness… states that feel unsafe if you’ve never learned how to hold them.
So anger becomes a home.
It’s not ideal… but it feels preferable to the alternative.
Anger Is a Stage, Not a Destination
Anger can be a vital transitional state.
It can be the moment someone stops collapsing inward.
But when anger becomes an identity, it turns into a trap.
The energy that once liberated starts to harden.
The nervous system stays activated.The world stays divided.
And eventually, anger stops opening doors.
What I Teach (And Why It’s Different)
I don’t teach people to suppress anger.
I don’t teach “positive thinking.”
What I teach is how to change inner state — through practice, presence, and embodied processes.
Because when someone learns to feel safely:
- anger no longer needs to protect them
- deeper emotions become accessible
- higher states emerge naturally
Joy, peace, love are not ideals to believe in.
They are states that become available when the system no longer has to defend itself.
A Final Thought
Anger is not evidence that people are broken.
It’s evidence that they are done collapsing.
The real question is not:
“Why are people so angry?”
It’s:“What would help them feel safe enough to go further?”
That’s the work I’m committed to.
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