I really enjoyed the group call today because we touched on some important aspects of what stress is and what it requires. Stress and anxiety need attention or we risk losing opportunity to navigate it successfully. There's also a reality that we may lose opportunity to grow which Drew mentioned. Matt reminds us clearly and repeatedly that awareness is needed. This awareness is a personal thing. When we show up for people and situations we have to have a formula (a toolkit) for how we navigate. Showing up is the work that builds greatness and being available to the real work is what matters. Jeff, you sit in a room with us on Saturdays - fostering an environment of mutual openness. What's important here is the 7 that were on the call today. It's not 'it could be 25', but there's only 7. It's 7 that actually stopped their Saturday to be here. The score for your impact is 700. * 700 * wins this weekend. All 7 take 100% of today back to our family and friends, and even to work and we get to use it. That's the result of creating the environment. You want depth anyway, not width. This same reality of going deeper with people we interact with - this is for us all. On the call we are all 100% here and ready to engage and listen. At home we see moments like the call, but we see it in passing. Troy - you mentioned the door being open. That's key in carrying the burden of showing up for others. We don't just stand in the doorway to invite people in. The sales approach happens impromptu when we are interacting. Selling people on an idea and the need to take action is the mission of helping people right where they are. This comes in the form of listening. Tyson mentioned that stress builds and compounds if we let it. This is true. Having awareness can allow us to develop a pattern of working through it. Each of us here have shared our experiences of great things and terrible situations or journeys. We already have those benchmarks of highs and lows even if the benchmark in your mind wasn't your experience, you learned it from seeing it. I believe fully that a reason that we get knocked down and stay down for too long is because we fail to build and keep a tool kit. There's no protocol or tool kit that solves losing someone to suicide. However knowing what is being impacted, knowing how people are affected, knowing where we can insert ourselves to be available and have an impact and help... that's the toolkit we carry to help men grow.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DWwtCLCDVlK/?igsh=MTN3aHY3azdzNjVyNA== It consumes us It requires everything We compromise relationships It validates us It completes us Identity It actually kills us slowly and we didn’t see it coming. Divorced is the identity we obtain from it. Divorced from everything, even from ourself. The Bible shows us in Solomon what it’s like to have everything. Solomon later at the end of his life says ‘all is vanity under the sun.’

Enjoy the long weekend. Spend time with those you love ! Jeff

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Most guys never go back and face the version of themselves that needed them the most. They just keep moving forward, carrying it, letting it bleed into their decisions, their reactions, their relationships. We’re not doing that. This week, you’re going to write a letter to your younger self. Not the version you’d post online. Not something polished. The real one. Here’s how this works Grab a pen and paper. Go somewhere quiet. No distractions. No phone. This is not a 5-minute exercise. If it feels easy, you’re doing it wrong. Your letter needs to hit these points 1. Tell him the truth about where he was at. What was he scared of? Where did he feel like he didn’t measure up? What was he carrying that nobody saw? 2. Call out the moments that actually mattered. Not general life advice. Specific moments. Where things went sideways. Where you felt lost. Where something stuck with you. 3. Own your mistakes. No blaming other people. No excuses. Where did you screw up? Where did you avoid, quit, or take the easy way out? 4. Tell him what he needs to hear, not what sounds good. Not clichés. Not “everything works out.” What would’ve actually helped him back then? 5. Show him who he becomes. What do you build? What do you survive? Why does he need to keep going, even when it doesn’t make sense? 6. Set a standard. What kind of man does he need to become? Not motivation. A standard he has to live up to. A couple rules: No surface-level writing. No generic lines. No rushing it. If it doesn’t make you stop and think while you’re writing it, you’re holding back. *Optional, but I recommend it* Read it out loud when you’re done. You’ll feel it differently. Most guys avoid this kind of work their whole lives. Don’t be that guy.