Wedding, but not in the wedding party. I'm 63yo 6' in shape. I go to a gentleman's store Brides mother is my date. I have a formal black wool. Shawl lapel, flat front trousers. Jacket is fitted, and I have a full vest. I bought a pair of the Oxfords that John C recommended. I'm wanting to be very cool, formal, relaxed. Not snooty. What accessories do I use to make this tux pop while still staying formal. 1- I'm thinking most on the shirt. No black buttons. What kind of collar? What brand of tux shirt? 2-Socks, can I go with something fun like black with small white polka dots? Or formal black? 3-cufflinks, 4-suspenders, 6-better vest? 7-What color pocket square? Do I have to go black? 8- can I fit the pants different? They seem baggy to me. Where to I edit them, what do I tell the seemstress? Give me any of your experienced tricks that make this a sweet set up.