This is just a vent, nothing more than a few paragraphs of whining! Does anyone remember when you got dressed up before going to a steakhouse? Maybe it's just a Texas thing where people don't worry about appearance before going out. I don't mean blazers and shined shoes; but the outfit of choice had at least a touch of gentlemanly style. This Sunday (before Labor Day) I decided to treat myself to a moderately nice steak. I go to the local Longhorn Steakhouse and am advised there would be a slight wait. As I wait in the lobby, I start checking out the people around me--mainly those who were obviously together on some sort of date. The ladies were all dressed well: heels, semi-formal evening wear, care is put into the hair, make up is on point. You get the picture. They looked stunning. Then I look at the man they are with. Why is it some men look at the lady they are with and they think to themselves, "She looks amazing! I'm going to put on my best slides with black crew socks, a stained pair of cut-off camoflague shorts, a sleeveless shirt showing off my favorite metal band and my bushy arm pit hair, and then top it off with a grimey ball cap turned backwards. I'll even prop my favorite pair of sunglasses on the bill even though it's night." This was the majority of men who were paired with an elegantly dressed lady. There were some men who took some pride in their image. What has happened in society where it is an accepted norm for a man to put zero effort into his image, especially on a date? Why are the ladies putting up with this? I'm sure the immediate answer is "he's got a big, thick wallet." But if that's the case, couldn't he afford basic clothing that look presentable? I'm about to turn 51 in a few days. Maybe I'm just a grumpy old man who's starting to say, "Back in my day..." Yes, I need to just mind my own business and worry about myself. I'm only sharing a lamentation about the decline of gentlemanly presentation. Thanks.

Picked this baby up while thrifting for only three bucks. Love the color and material, and I already have a few fragrances in mind I could style this with. Asking the masters, what’s the best way to properly style and rock this?

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Wedding, but not in the wedding party. I'm 63yo 6' in shape. I go to a gentleman's store Brides mother is my date. I have a formal black wool. Shawl lapel, flat front trousers. Jacket is fitted, and I have a full vest. I bought a pair of the Oxfords that John C recommended. I'm wanting to be very cool, formal, relaxed. Not snooty. What accessories do I use to make this tux pop while still staying formal. 1- I'm thinking most on the shirt. No black buttons. What kind of collar? What brand of tux shirt? 2-Socks, can I go with something fun like black with small white polka dots? Or formal black? 3-cufflinks, 4-suspenders, 6-better vest? 7-What color pocket square? Do I have to go black? 8- can I fit the pants different? They seem baggy to me. Where to I edit them, what do I tell the seemstress? Give me any of your experienced tricks that make this a sweet set up.

Today we attended the Fair At New Boston, an event that tried to sducate folks about the time between The American Revolution but before the War of 1812.Thie site is a county park commemorating a skirmish in 1780 between KY militia and the Shawnee and one of the events is a re enactment of the battle. Any way, I wore the Sage breeches and waistcoat I bought here last year and I added a brown jacket and a pair of buckle shoes. The shoes were hand welted. The pictures here include the monument on the site, me trying on the jacket and finally me kitted out in the new shoes and jacket. I received several compliments on the outfit, including being called dapper. Dapper may be the compliment I recieved most often no matter what I am wearing.