Today would have been Terry’s 51st. I still don’t fully know how to process this day. Because part of me resists calling it a birthday… she didn’t get another year. She didn’t get more time. And yet ignoring it feels just as wrong. This is the part of grief people don’t talk about— how we end up living between dates. The day they were born. The day they died. Both major in completely different ways. And when someone dies the way Terry did, it adds another layer of confusion. So I use today the only way that feels honest for me now— to tell the truth. She didn’t leave because she didn’t love. She didn’t leave because she didn’t care. And she didn’t leave because she “chose” to in the way people think. Her mind was unwell. She suffered an illness of the kind. And that’s how she died. And when the mind is unwell, it can become incredibly convincing. It can narrow everything down to pain… and make escape feel like the only option. That’s not a character flaw. It’s suffering. So no, I’m not celebrating in the traditional sense today. But I am honoring her— by speaking about this in a way that removes blame and replaces it with understanding. If you’ve ever felt that same tension on days like this… you’re not the only one trying to make sense of it. That’s Terry and I in the video below. 24 more hours to take advantage of Terry Birthday Giveaway and become a Globally Certified Grief Educator for $51. Link here - we NEED people like YOU http://mastergrief.com/terrybirthday

Its been 10 years .. my grief is as strong as when they all passed… first my brother of heart attack, then I found my husband when he took his life, and 3 months later my mom from ovarian cancer a terrible death. … I still cry everyday.. so many reminders.. NEED help in finding support and ways to live with ALL these emotions, every day I go through all the stages of grief.. sometimes I look like a maniac.. what to do…

As we move into this season—whether you’re honoring Easter, Passover, or simply feeling the shift that comes with this time of year—I want to acknowledge something real: Holidays can bring up a lot in grief. They highlight what’s missing.They remind you of what used to be.They can feel heavy when the rest of the world feels… celebratory. And I want you to know—you’re not doing this wrong if it feels that way. But here’s the reframe I want to offer you: This season is not just about what’s gone. It's also about what continues. Connection doesn’t end. Love doesn’t disappear. It changes form. So instead of asking,“Why does this hurt so much?” Try asking,“What does this moment make me remember… and how can I honor that?” That might look like: - Speaking their name out loud - Keeping one small tradition alive - Letting yourself feel both gratitude and sadness in the same breath - Or simply not forcing yourself to be anywhere you don’t have the capacity to be You don’t have to perform your way through this season. You get to experience it honestly. ****Now, something really important as our community continues to grow: We are adding 3 more support groups each week. As we all get to know each other more, these groups will begin to focus on specific types of loss—so you’re not just supported, you’re understood at a deeper level. Because healing doesn’t just happen in isolation—it happens in community. Being in a room (even a virtual one) where people get it without you having to explain everything… that’s where shifts happen. That’s where identity starts to rebuild. I also want to personally invite you to consider upgrading to Premium Membership. Even if you commit to just 90 days. There’s no pressure to stay forever.But give yourself the chance to fully step into the support you came here for. Because this work is about more than just getting through the day. It’s about: - Learning how to grieve with more love than pain - Rebuilding a new identity for yourself and your life - Staying connected to your person—not less connected, but more - And finding your place inside a community that truly sees you